reply to post by StevenDye
StevenDye,
Be very careful about what you call love at any age. We can often love/desire people and things which in the long run are bad for us.
The female is not that confusing. You just have to learn to think outside the box of what passes for male/female values today.
Translate that to mean you have to learn to think outside your glands and hers...ie emotions/passions.
Emotions are nice...wonderful if it works out right..but they can be alot of baggage if you are not careful with them. You should already be figuring
this out..not pining/yearning for something outside your reach and abilities.
I can tell you are very young by the usage of the term or expression...
So, there was a girl I loved...genuinely would do anything for her type of love.
This is the kind of statement one uses when one is hooked on mucic lyrics...fantasy beliefs and entitlement thinking....not reality.
The reality is that circumstances dictate this female is outside of your reach.
Lets say that somehow she was within your reach....would you expend all of your resources to keep going to see her?? Would you expend all of someone
elses resources to go and see her and keep trying out to keep her at great expense to you and even great expense to someone else?? Is she they type of
girl who would do the same...or do you just "imagine " she would do the same?? Do you even know the difference??
Emotions are wonderful. Fantasys are wonderful...they are just not reality.
Someone has to do the work to make it a reality...this means someone has to take the "RISK" to make it a reality. Even then there is no gaurantee
that for all the expenses given up/sacraficed that it will in fact be a reality.
Stephen Dye..
It is obvious by your post that you are very young...have a young mans dreams and beliefs. Nothing wrong with being young most certainly!!
What you dont seem to know much about is how to lead with a woman or female. You know ..like dancing ...to lead. Real life requires leading too.
Fantasy, dreams, and expectations do not require leading. All you have to go on is your passions. And passions/emotions can mislead us about reality
to be found out here.
Nothing wrong with being in love..but dont forget where when and how to lead. This requires work..risk, and sacrafice. Like many young women and young
men today....you have expectations and beliefs..of someone else.....not experience.
Once again .you are young..nothing wrong with that. You are going to experience alot of rejection in your life over various things and relationships.
Get used to it as a lifestlye. It will bring about maturity if you survive it. And maturity is necessary for survival..male and female
This is also why most females are more quickly attracted to what they "think" are maturity standards in a male. Certain appearances.
It is very easy to think ones self mature when your primary expectations and beliefs are of someone else through a relationship. This is the source of
much to do with what you find confusing about the female.
IF you can get past his hurdle...in thinking ..you will not find the female to be so confusing. Many things will open up about women and girls...they
will become obvious.
But it requires maturity first and with this maturity a sense of when, where, how, and for what you will be willing to lead. This maturity also
dictates how much you will be willing to "RISK" for a relationship. This is all a function of time and experience...not instant gratification
beliefs and practices....ie..entitlement.
Your desire for this female is clouding your ability to see in realty.
Move on ..get some experience and maturity out here among the "wildlife."
There are lots of females out here. Now days you dont even have to chase most of them down..they will chase you.
This is alot for a 16 year old but it is true and I have found it true..over and over.
Thanks,
Orangetom
[edit on 31-12-2008 by orangetom1999]