Sorry I just realized that this was address at me and I never answered it.
Originally posted by juniperberry
This quote as stated above got me thinking about something. Is there anywhere in the Bible(s) where it specifically states that women should revere
God instead of her husband?
Yes, the first commandment. You are to love God above all else, anything you love more then God becomes a false god which you are worshiping. That
even includes other family members. You are supposed to:
And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the
first commandment. Mark 12:30
Then...
And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these. Mark
12:31
The whole of the 10 commandments can really be broken down into these two commands. The first 3 commandments (4 if you are Orthodox or Jewish) fall
under the first command, to love God. The remaining commands are all about loving your neighbor.
Originally posted by juniperberry
If I recall from reading it (from many years ago), weren't women supposed to always rever/honour/subjugate themselves to their husbands/fathers/sons?
Regardless of whatever act of atrocity he did?
The only thing I can think of you having read that might sound like this is:
10 But to the married I give instructions, not I, but the Lord, that the wife should not leave her husband 11 (but if she does leave, she must
remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband), and that the husband should not divorce his wife.
12 But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce
her. 13 And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. 14 For the unbelieving
husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean,
but now they are holy. 15 Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has
called us to peace. 16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your
wife? 1Corenthians 7:12-16
Basically according to the bible, despite the fact that God allowed the Jews to Divorce under their laws, he has always hated divorce, and considers
it adultery:
The Pharisees approached and asked, "Is it lawful for a husband to divorce his wife?" They were testing him. He said to them in reply, "What
did Moses command you?" They replied, "Moses permitted him to write a bill of divorce and dismiss her." But Jesus told them, "Because of the
hardness of your hearts he wrote you this commandment. But from the beginning of creation, 'God made them male and female. For this reason a man
shall leave his father and mother (and be joined to his wife), and the two shall become one flesh.' So they are no longer two but one flesh.
Therefore what God has joined together, no human being must separate." In the house the disciples again questioned him about this. He said to them,
"Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her; and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits
adultery."
Mark 10:1-12
So biblically speaking once you marry, its supposed to be for life and if you separate you should remain so until the other party repents and comes
back (and there is true repentance and forgiveness). That is pretty hard to live up to, and often put people in harms way (abusive relationships), so
many Churches are much more lenient on the topic then they used to be, and allow divorce to slide under the same grounds that Moses did. The last time
I checked though, for example, the Roman Catholic church still grants annulments rather then divorces as divorce was for many years an excommunable
offense.
