Originally posted by Dusty
Well Most religons are a cult of some type, not all cults are evil though. I just dont understand why I have to announce to a god that I want to be
with this woman forever. Does he even care if I get married? Doubt it.
I imagine that the reason behind Traditional Marriage and it's 'announcement' before God comes from when people in general held God(all versions)
and thier Religious/Spiritual Ideals as the most important, powerful and eternal. That being so, when one (or in this case two) makes a promise
before God or in accordance with what they hold as their most important and sacred aspects of life, it makes those actions and promises that much more
personally meaningful and important to keep.
Since you do not have any 'Higher Meaning(better than saying Authority IMO)' it really will come down to whether or not you're a 'Man of your
Word'. There are No Ideals or Principles above 'Yours', in your opinion, so should a time come when 'You' no longer hold yourself accountable
for the promises you've made, you can break them without any worry, atleast morally or emotionally that is. Same would go for your wife too
depending on her beliefs. It is like making a contract with someone where the binding strength & terms of that contract are enforced only by those
who are bound to it. Because each person has only to answer to themselves should they decide to break the deal, justifying the reasoning for it is
My soon to be wife knows my thoughts on marriage but she also knows I want to be with her forever. SO basically I have to say vows that will
mean almost nothing to me. To say that I am getting married to join ourselves in gods eyes would be a lie, to me. Now to say I am joining myself wit
this woman because I want to be with her forever and the fact that I get better rates on insurance and taxes well that would be the
You may want to ask yourself whether or not you would still Marry this Woman and Be with her Forever, even if it meant Double Taxes and Worse
Insurance. Also, a 'Vow' is nothing more than a Solemn Promise which is made of the most True and Honest Dedication. They do not need to come from
'some book' and probably shouldn't in most cases. They should come from You(& Her) as the words and/or conditions of your 'verbal contract' to
each other. It's easy to say, 'I want to be with so-and-so forever cause I love them.', but what does that really mean??
For example, how many married couples have you known who REALLY DO, 'Love, Honor, & Cherish' each other for 'Richer, Poorer' in 'Sickness &
Health' Until Death?? Personally, I doubt that half of them understood the meaning of those vows or agree with them anyway. The result is a
Marriage built on a foundation of weak commitments and vague purpose. I'm not saying that this should apply to your situation. However, your focus
on the 'Tax & Material Benefits' aspect of this Union of Two Lives Into One Until Death, aka: Marriage, is less than convincing when it comes to
showing the meaning behind it.
Dont take this outta context, i may sound like I am just getting married for the hell of it. I am not, I love this woman and if standing in
front of some guy and telling him that makes her happy, then I will do that.
Actually it sounds like you're going to marry her cause you 'Love'(whatever that means to you) her & for the Economic Benefits. Standing in front
of some guy and saying some meaningless words shouldn't matter to you or her, nor should any other action void of meaning or honesty. Your union
together isn't for or about anyone but the Two of You, and maybe God depending on you beliefs. I doubt she really wants you to say or do anything
that you don't believe in doing any more than you want to do them.
Honestly, I wish you both the best in your life together. Don't take my post in a negative way either, I'm not trying to belittle your connection
together in any way. I am just questioning the motives behind Marriage from what little bit you've said, which I'm sure does not fully represent
your relationship. Anyway, Congratulations!