I do not use the rant forum very often but this one has me absolutely gnashing my teeth.
Currently I live with my parents, my two kids, and my younger teenage sister.
She is, and has been since i lived here, bulimic. This is not a secret. While I know many people become bulimic after a trauma, I know her and I
beleive she is doing it
purely for the attention. To make it worse I beleive she has a few "puke buddies" who actively encourage her
behavior
It has been known for at least a year but my parents have done
nothing to attempt to stop her or get her to treatment. I can understand
caution before the addiction is out in the open, but doing nothing at least one year after they both know is insane.
I cannot understand parents turning a blind eye to behavior that could cause serious, even life-threatening behavior to their child's life.
I think maybe since she is the youngest, and soon off to college, they are just hoping to get her out of the house.
Or perhaps they get as much emotional milage off having the daughter with the problem as she does from having the problem. I really cannot figure it
out.
Either way as I see it there is
no excuse for their complacensy. The is life threatening behavior, somehow that does not seem to connect. If
she taking drugs or drinking herself stupid, I think they would act, but somehow bulimia=a life threatening illness isn't getting processed.
:bash:
I have voiced my concern to them, an said that I think she may have an "I need you to stop me to show me that you love me!" complex. I have spied
on my sister and told them when and how she has purged. I have kept records of what and when goes missing from the kitchen.
Still no action.
Did I mention that she is absolutely undisciplined, too? She is not particularly a wild child, and very studious, to her credit, but she has her own
car and there are still
no restrictions placed on her when she goes to school/work/friend's house/ shopping. She also has unlimited and
private access to phone and internet.
If I had a bulimic child that I
knew was actively B&Ping, I would not let them go where they want, when they want. I would double-check where
that they are going where they say they are. I would call their boss and make sure they are actually following the work schedule they say they are. I
would ask for their pay stubs and their receipts for their purchaces to make sure they are not sneaking food into the house or buying laxatives. I
would call their friends parent's to make sure they are actually at their house, and explain the situation and ask them to keep an eye out for any
suspicious activity.
That is the very
minimum, without even bringing councelling or treatment into the picture.
To make matters worse she often steals food that I have bought specifically for me or my own kids. It doesn't matter how blatantly I label or try to
set things apart, they still disappear. I once had an entire box of teething biscuits go. (WFT! WTF! TEETHING BISCUITS!!!)
This is really where I draw the line. If she wants to screw around her own body that is her decision but she has no business turning my kids'food
into her flush fuel.
But once again I have had no help from my parents here. I've asked them to talk to her and discipline her for this stealing, if nothing else, but
nothing ever gets said. Furthermore they become angry if I talk to my sister about it myself, seeing this as intrusion into an imaginary effort to
stop the problem.
I'm about at my wits end with this.
Arg!
And to those who say "Just move out," I don't want to do that because I think it is a positive situation for the kids overall, at this point, and
my leaving would only remove me from the situation, it would not stop it.