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If you have been thinking about raising the child or placing the child for adoption, none of the decisions you made or the documents you signed prior to the baby's birth are binding on you. You have every right to change your mind as often as you want. However, as regards the adoption process, there are limitations in your ability to change your mind.
Choosing adoption means carrying your child to term, giving birth and then legally giving your child to another couple who assume all parental rights for the child. While in the past closed and completely private adoptions, whereby the birth mother knew absolutely nothing about who was adopting her child, was the norm, nowadays birth mothers have a choice.
More birth parents, as well as adoptive parents, are choosing to have an open adoption. In this type of adoption, the birth mother takes an active role in choosing the adoptive parents, meeting and interviewing potential couples. Often, the birth mother and adoptive parents are able to form some type of informal relationship and many continue this relationship after the child is born.
Placing a child for adoption is almost always a traumatic decision even when there are compelling reasons to do so. For some, the decision is made with a reasonable amount of planning and thought; for others, it's a decision made in crisis. As we learned from talking with birthmothers, it's always life-altering and it's always accompanied by fear - fears that will not be realized or dispelled until the actual placement is made - and for some, not until long after.
However, adoption is rarely, if at all, a simple decision or process. There are many issues to be dealt with, many choices to be made and many concepts to be understood. Depending on the circumstances involved, the process can get quiet complicated. We know that each person’s experience will be different. All of this underscores the value of receiving helpful support along the way from a reputable agency.
Originally posted by ThePiemaker
Yea there's just too much negativity going around about procreation. It starts in the church, but it makes its way into other area's of life.
Parents need to be there for their kids even when they make a mistake. I don't understand why parents have to view their teenage pregnancy so negatively. Teenagers are damned if they keep the child, they're damned if they get an abortion, they're damned if they give it up for adoption. How about loving your child and grandchild and supporting them both as best you can?
What about schools? How do they view teenage pregnancies these days? Haven't done any actual research on the subject but I know I've heard lots of stories about teenagers having to drop out because they were pregnant. Maybe that's just catholic schools though.
Then you have the cost of living set at ridiculous levels, a lot of single mothers have to go into debt just to support their children. it's an unkind and unfeeling system we have. It might not be so bad if people had loving families to help support them, especially the teenage pregnancies. Like I said before, if you aren't going to love your children you might as well get an abortion. I mean, if you can't be there for them when they make mistakes i don't know why you even decided to have them. That is if you even decided to have them. I bet a lot of these parents had mistakes of their own, and yet they expect their kids to be perfect. Ha!
Now, let me get this straight: if we abort our child, we are evil. Yet if we "give up" our child to strangers who you deem to be more fit as parents, then we are "good." So you consider it "good" to rip a child from his/her natural mother's arms and hand the child to "more fit" individuals, thereby creating a life-long pain and trauma to the birthmother. You really think this is good? If so, it is YOU who are SICK!
Originally posted by Lokey13
Just since your the only woman here at the moment
I agree remorse could affect anyone but again your decision don't get knocked up when your 18, maybe your parents should kick the crap out of your boy friend and maybe they should actually figure out what your doing all day then you may miss out on an awful young pregnancy.
Originally posted by Lokey13
Abortion is not murder per the fact that the "baby" which at the time of abortion is essentially mush so how is that a person exactly?
Brings me to the theory of eating eggs; basically aborted chickens
Abortion is doing nothing worse then what nature takes upon it self.