reply to post by Solomons
Well, we'll have to agree to disagree on this.
With so many "sperm donors" out there, there are way too many men who wish to shirk their responsibility. That, and also given the fact that there
are so many controlling jerks out there who would love the opportunity to foist their genetic legacy on some woman and then run from her life forever,
no, I absolutely do not think it should be 50/50. How fair would it be for some jerk to mandate that a woman must be required to bear his
offspring, and then disappear? And yet it happens, I'd be willing to bet, many multiple times daily.
And, until you are able to be pregnant and give birth, you will never fully understand the physical and mental toll pregnancy can take, especially an
unwanted pregnancy.
Babies are highly over romanticized, imo. They are wonderful, but as women, we are the ones who take the largest part of the responsibility,
physically through the pregnancy, and even after, with the care of a helpless infant, then to a baby, then a kid, on to adulthood.
I had c sections with my children, which is major surgery, in case you weren't aware. But, even though I have a good husband, I was still the one
who got up every time with the baby in the middle of the night. Even though I worked full time, I still got up in the night and fed and changed
them.
So, this is why, in part that I feel the way I do.
I agree that it takes two to make a baby, unless you go to a sperm bank

, but the woman is still usually the one who has the greater consequences to deal with. I'm all for two grown people sitting down and talking
over their decision, I think that shows great responsibility on both parts, but in no way should there ever be any legal mandate that the man has a
50/50 say, for the very reasons I stated above.