Yes, you're missing something. Marriage/union is not a soley religious concept. The Bible does touch on it, but the Bible was written long after
marraige existed. Do you think people didn't marry before Christianity came into existance? Do you think early pagans didn't have marraige/union
ceremonies.
What you fail to understand is that not everyone follows, accepts, or bleives the Bible to be the final word, and should not be forced to live by
it's doctrine.
I believe you are wrong ....modern marriage (Permission of the state,legal paperwork ..etc ) is not that old ..
In the days of the bible ......they did not do any paperwork and very few actual ceremonies (Unless you want to call a feast as a ceremony) ..then
they go home and consumate the marriage (Bam they are married) ..
Another thing that keeps being said and needs to be addressed is that some of you say that MARRIAGE is not a religious thing ..And yet it was
Christians who created the marriages we have today (Church sponsored was first .then state was later) ...........
The Romans had common law marriages ....
[The first recorded use of the word "marriage" for the union of same-sex couples also occurs during the Roman Empire. The term, however, was rarely
associated with same-sex relationships, even though the relationships themselves were common.[12] In the year 342, the Christian emperors Constantius
and Constans declared same-sex marriage to be illegal.[13]
From the early Christian era, marriage was thought of as primarily a private matter, with no religious or other ceremony being required.[citation
needed] Prior to 1545, Christian marriages in Europe were by mutual consent, declaration of intention to marry and upon the subsequent physical union
of the parties.[citation needed] The couple would promise verbally to each other that they would be married to each other; the presence of a priest or
witnesses was not required. This promise was known as the "verbum." If made in the present tense (e.g., "I marry you"), it was unquestionably
binding; if made in the future tense ("I will marry you"), it would constitute a betrothal. But if the couple proceeded to have sexual relations,
the union was a marriage.[citation needed] One of the functions of churches from the Middle Ages was to register marriages, which was not obligatory.
There was no state involvement in marriage and personal status, with these issues being adjudicated in ecclesiastical courts.
The average age of marriage in the late thirteenth into the fifteenth century was around 25 years of age.[14] In fact, during the 13th century in
England it was unlawful for a woman younger than 24 years to marry. However, this changed, beginning in the 1500s, to 20 years of age.[15]
It was only after the Council of Trent in 1545, as part of the Counter-Reformation, that a Roman Catholic marriage would be recognized only if the
marriage ceremony was officiated by a priest with two witnesses. The Council also authorized a Catechism, issued in 1566, which defined marriage as,
"The conjugal union of man and woman, contracted between two qualified persons, which obliges them to live together throughout life."[16]
This change did not extend to the regions affected by the Protestant Reformation[17], where marriage by consent continued to be the norm. As part of
the Reformation, the role of recording marriages and setting the rules for marriage passed to the state; by the 1600s many of the Protestant European
countries had a state involvement in marriage.]
State recognition
In the early modern period, John Calvin and his Protestant colleagues reformulated Christian marriage by enacting the Marriage Ordinance of Geneva,
which imposed "The dual requirements of state registration and church consecration to constitute marriage"[18] for recognition. That was the first
state involvement in marriage.[citation needed]
In England and Wales, Lord Hardwicke's Marriage Act 1753 required a formal ceremony of marriage, thereby curtailing the practice of Fleet
Marriage.[19] These were clandestine or irregular marriages performed at Fleet Prison, and at hundreds of other places. From the 1690s until the
Marriage Act of 1753 as many as 300,000 clandestine marriages were performed at Fleet Prison alone.[20] The Act required a marriage ceremony to be
officiated by an Anglican priest in the Anglican Church with two witnesses and registration. The Act did not apply to Jewish marriages or those of
Quakers, whose marriages continued to be governed by their own customs.
In England and Wales, since 1837, civil marriages have been recognised as a legal alternative to church marriages under the Marriage Act 1836. In
Germany, civil marriages were recognised in 1875. This law permitted a declaration of the marriage before an official clerk of the civil
administration, when both spouses affirm their will to marry, to constitute a legally recognised valid and effective marriage, and allowed an optional
private clerical marriage ceremony.
In many jurisdictions, a civil marriage may take place as part of the religious marriage ceremony, although they are theoretically distinct. In most
American states, a wedding may be officiated by a priest, minister, rabbi or other religious authority, and in such a case the religious authority
also acts as an agent of the state. In some countries, such as France, Spain, Germany, Turkey, Argentina, Japan and Russia, it is necessary to be
married by government authority separately from (usually before) any religious ceremony, with the state ceremony being the legally binding one. Some
jurisdictions allow civil marriages in circumstances which are notably not allowed by particular religions, such as same-sex marriages or civil
unions.
Marriage relationships may also be created by the operation of the law alone, as in common-law marriage, sometimes called "marriage by habit and
repute." This is a judicial recognition that two people who have been living as domestic partners are subject to the rights and obligations of a
legal marriage, even without formally marrying. However, in the UK at least, common-law marriage has been abolished and there are no rights available
unless a couple marries or enters into a civil partnership.
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