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Feeling the need for scientific research to back up the ‘dirty old men’ myth, Gothenburg University and Oxford University scientists performed a study on 400 lonely hearts ads to see how men and women choose their partners. What they wanted was to test some theories about how men and women pick their partners in general. By examining these ads, they found out what any man in his right mind already knows (this applies to most, not everybody). Women search for solid resources and an established social status. As a result, men often include ‘large house’ and ‘economically independent’ in their ads. Men search for younger women, only about 1 man in 100 searching for a woman of similar or older age. However, young women search for older men. Actually, almost all women under 60 search for older partners. After they hit that magic number, they start thinking about younger partners.
“When it comes to physical characteristics, it turned out that men and women were the same. Both used words like, ‘athletic,’ ‘beautiful,’ ‘pretty,’ ‘tall,’ ‘handsome,’ and ‘trim’ to the same extent, and this goes both for their descriptions of themselves and for the characteristics they were looking for in a partner,” says Jörgen Johnsson at the Department of Zoology, University of Gothenburg, one of the researchers behind the study. “This might indicate that men have learned to respond to women’s interest in looks, therefore stressing to the same extent their attractiveness in the ads. The fact that both sexes focus on looks may also be influenced by our times, with the great fixation on appearance in the media.”
A man's chances of dying early are cut by a fifth if their bride is between 15 and 17 years their junior.
The risk of premature death is reduced by 11 per cent if they marry a woman seven to nine years younger.
The study at Germany's Max Planck Institute also found that men marrying older women are more likely to die early.
The results suggest that women do not experience the same benefits of marrying a toy boy or a sugar daddy.
Wives with husbands older or younger by between seven and nine years increase their chances of dying early by 20 per cent.
This rises to 30 per cent if the age difference is close to 15 and 17 years.
Scientists say the figures for men may be the result of natural selection – that only the healthiest, most successful older men are able to attract younger mates.
"Another theory is that a younger woman will care for a man better and therefore he will live longer," said institute spokesman Sven Drefahl.
The study examined deaths between 1990 and 2005 for the entire population of Denmark.
On average in Europe, most men marry women around three years younger.
Could it be because younger women are less likely to nag and emotionally terrorize their husbands? I wonder if menopause is the source of this issue.
Originally posted by The All Seeing I
Here's my theory...
So for instance, as women approach their senior years they start to look and act more like men, with the additional negative effects menopause has on women's dispositions, from the stand point of a heterosexual man approaching his senior years... younger women are more attractive in body, mind and spirit.
[edit on 22-10-2008 by The All Seeing I]
Originally posted by caitlinfae
Why is menopause seen as a negative process in our lives?
And please would you expand on your theory that women look and act more like men as they get older?
I really don't understand your reasoning here, and at first read, it comes across as a very shallow and mysogenistic statement.
It sounds like you've had a bad experience of someone's menopause, maybe even your own.
Originally posted by caitlinfae
Of course I'm aware of all the symptoms....what reasonably well educated woman isn't? It's a bit patronising to assume on any level that I'm not. I've seen other women in my family go through hell with theirs, so I do understand.
As for knee jerk reactions....I think I was asking just for confirmation of what you were saying first? I'm actually not surprised that you get reactions like that when what you're saying seems to equate attractiveness and likeability with make-up, heels and long hair. Any person's attractiveness is due to much more than the outer eight of an inch of their being, no matter how much make up it's plastered in.
You're also assuming that your truth as far as menopause is concerned, is the same as everyone elses truth, and that may not be so.
The 35 Symptoms of Menopause
This list of common symptoms that occur during perimenopause and menopause was developed from the real-life experiences of hundreds of women. All symptoms were experienced by numerous women and were either cyclical in nature, or responded to treatments (both traditional and alternative) known to address hormonal imbalances.
Click HERE for the credits to the women who developed this list.
1. Hot flashes, flushes, night sweats and/or cold flashes, clammy feeling
2. Irregular heart beat
4. Mood swings, sudden tears
5. Trouble sleeping through the night (with or without night sweats)
6. Irregular periods; shorter, lighter periods; heavier periods, flooding; phantom periods, shorter cycles, longer cycles
7. Loss of libido
8. Dry vagina
9. Crashing fatigue
10. Anxiety, feeling ill at ease
11. Feelings of dread, apprehension, doom
12. Difficulty concentrating, disorientation, mental confusion
13. Disturbing memory lapses
14. Incontinence, especially upon sneezing, laughing; urge incontinence
15. Itchy, crawly skin
16. Aching, sore joints, muscles and tendons
17. Increased tension in muscles
18. Breast tenderness
19. Headache change: increase or decrease
20. Gastrointestinal distress, indigestion, flatulence, gas pain, nausea
21. Sudden bouts of bloat
23. Exacerbation of existing conditions
24. Increase in allergies
25. Weight gain
26. Hair loss or thinning, head, pubic, or whole body; increase in facial hair
27. Dizziness, light-headedness, episodes of loss of balance
28. Changes in body odor
29. Electric shock sensation under the skin and in the head
30. Tingling in the extremities
31. Gum problems, increased bleeding
32. Burning tongue, burning roof of mouth, bad taste in mouth, change in breath odor
33. Osteoporosis (after several years)
34. Changes in fingernails: softer, crack or break easier
35. Tinnitus: ringing in ears, bells, 'whooshing,' buzzing etc.
I did not imply that you are a degenerate scumbag for your views....I would never say that of anyone....but I still don't think that you've really explained how they are *not* shallow and mysogenistic.
So what if women are more confident and forceful when they mature? That's a good thing, isn't it?
So what if they don't totter around in heels all day every day.....that's healthier, isn't it? So what if they don't wear all the make up they did in their 20's....is that what really makes a woman beautiful?
What about women who do all of these things...and I'm one of them, cos I WANT to....I wear heels, make up and have hair to my waist even in my 40's....often we are accused of being innappropriate in how we dress, and "mutton dressed as lamb"....so we can't win really?
What greater purpose does this argument serve? You're making huge generalisations about women that may be true in your limited experience, and I don't mean that in a disrespectful way...I simply mean that you don't have knowledge of every women's experience as she ages, only some of them, and I'm sorry that they haven't been good ones.