Ever been asked any minding question before like such? If you have, what was your answer or response to the questions?
What I'm getting at is: Is there any correct way to answer those kinds of questions?
If I'm watching something on T.V., and you ask me: "Do you mind if I turn the T.V. real quick?" What am I supposed to say? I feel if I say,
"Sure," I'm damned, no matter the tone I said it in, because you are going to take that as a 'go right ahead'. I also feel if I say, "No," I'm
I mean, are those ppl who even ask a minding question being manipulative, or what?
If I'm watching something on T.V., again, and you, this second time, ask me with this question: "You wouldn't mind if I turn the T.V.?" I feel if
I say, "Yeah," they are going to turn the T.V. I also feel if I say, "No," they are going to turn the T.V.
Are we being extorted when asked
those kinds of minding questions?
Plus, how can you not mind, anyway, when it's surely on your mind if someone borrows something from you? You cant just shut off your thinking about
If you're asked with this:
"You dont mind if I borrow this book?"
^^If you say, no... Is it a no, as in, you're implying 'that's correct'? Is it a no, as in, you're implying a 'no, you do mind'? Or, is it a
no, as in, you're implying a 'no, you do not mind'?
^^Which of those fits your bill? And keep in mind, the questioner may not know exactly what you are implying by "no." And if they are not a
pessimistic type, then they are going to believe your answer is surely in their favor 100%. They see the glass as half full.
Now if anyone first says they have a yes or no question for you that you are to answer with a 'yes' or 'no' answer only, and it's followed with a
'you wouldnt mind if I etc.' question, then you surely know you're being taken by a smooth, manipulative criminal.
[edit on 20-10-2008 by Mabus]