It think it's an interesting question since many people seem to share the idea of a "perfect other". I believe some might consider it a symptom of a frail ego, but with communication at the very heart of our existence it is only natural to me to seek similar minds. In being human we will to seek an ideal of perfection. Whether or not such a thing exists is purely in the perception of the beholder and how we're willing to define our ideals.

I never bought into the soul mate thing cause I thought what if they passed away before you even get the chance to meet em and be with them? I was thinking that since I had a lot of bad luck back then, but I since dont buy into the soul mate thing even without the bad luck.

What I do buy is that I can get the type of women I want since I dont have high expectations, besides just them having natural great looks and a sexy, womenly manner they let toward me like a mating call of all sorts of ways womenly and sexy. That aint too much since women naturally come equipt to enetrtain and please their would-be mate into mating with them so they will want to be with them or have them their main squeeze.

Thanks for the Zeus read, it was a trip...

Well, my take on this is that there are "a few" soul mates out there for ya'...

Without having the opportunity to travel to other lands, the inability to connect with every person who has similar interests, the lack of motivation by the individual(s), prevents us from finding our soul mate...

There may be a young lady in Turkey that has the same interests, passions, temperment, dreams, ambitions and flair for whatever, as I do...but since I will more than likely never travel there, and she may never travel here, finding one another becomes highly improbable....and there may be several of these individuals throughout the world...culture may be an issue at first, but if it's the real deal, the two of will overcome that easily...




So, if and when you find someone that you REALLY connect with, jump on it (pun intended...) , becasue it may be the closest you come to finding, or the only one you will find in this lifetime...

Good thread...

When I was young my Grandfather told me to *Wait and find the man who’s rib it took to make you* (the Adam/Eve thing.)
He believed there was one woman for ever man, visa versa, and it was all connected with the whole *union of the soul* starting when Adam gave his rib to make his mate.

i totally buy into the soul mate thing, i myself have had many relationships but i can honestly say there was only one women who i really thought was the one, my soul mate! every girl since or before never comes close to how this soul mate made me feel and she felt the same, but after a few years we parted but not thru falling out of love it was many factors, the fact remains that i believe there are such people who you may meet that are true soul mates, if you find one well done and keep hold because they only come around once in my sad opinion.

Soul mate means this:

1. There is only one soul, the soul of God.
2. This soul has divided in parts.
3. The soul that you have now is just a fraction of your real self, which is a much bigger soul, who, at the same time, in the past, present and the future is other people.
4. Your soul mate is in fact another human which is guided by your true self, or your big soul. These soul mates can be found in the past, today, and in the future.

When you meet a soul mate, you will naturally get attracted to it, since deep down its a part of your real self. They can be the same sex, different sex, it does not matter.

Also you are living both in the past, present and future, as different humans. The big self is only one. When you make love to your soul mate, well in fact, you rediscover who you are.

You might have soul mates in your life, or not, that depends. But soul mate does not equal = love partner necessarily. Your wife/husband might be another soul. Soul mates can be also friends, parents, brothers, etc.

The idea of soul mates just adds to the distruction of the family unit.

leave your wife or husband, go find you soul mate. never get married and have children, unless you find your soul mate. and if you say you did, that means you are easily enough convinced that we can fill you full of all sorts of blind faith propoganda.

In some respects I agree with you.
The cliche of *Soul Mate* is so glorified and glamorized it’s truly been blown all out of proportion.
You see the couple running through a daisy carpeted sunny field, their arms outstretched, they embrace and kiss ---> Happily ever after’s been achieved one more time.
What you don’t see when the house lights go up and the movies over?
The familiarity that breeds contempt.
The annoying little habits even soul mates suffer through.
The complacency that settles in - even to the best matched people out there.
So Mr. & Mrs. Homemaker are subjected to all this romantic spun candy - and feel like somethings missing in their life.
Their days *a-courtin* are over, real life’s set in, the baby needs changing and the caps off the toothpaste, yet again.
What they don’t realize is they have a *Soul Mate* of the best kind right there beside them.
It’s two people working day in and day out to stay together, make it work, and don't tongue-tangle in the morning before oral hygiene's been tended too.
The Real Soul Mates are the one’s that stick to it - in reality - day in day out.
Make love out of every instance in their life they can without waiting for the little Soul Mate Fairy to come and bop them both on the head wherein they’re instantly filled with blissfulness and *oneness* of the soul...
Because of this misrepresentation of the *soul couple* - in everything from movies, to bathroom cleaner commercials that young couple you see walking down the street holding hands and making goo-goo eyes at each other looks better than life, something you want, something you’ve come to believe is what you deserve.
And sadly a good bunch of people *opt out* of what they’ve allowed to become tedious and mundane in search of this ideal - that‘s about as tangible as the ghost of Saint Valentine.
If a long lasting - faithful - work it out no matter what relationship was glorified more in the media over time you’d see a big change in the *Family Unit* for sure.
Which is exactly why you don’t see it.
The *powers that be* in the USA (at least) don't want long lasting families that stay together and are a *strong unit* within themselves.
But that’s for another post.



Did I ramble? I didn't ramble did I?

There's an old story about a man who was searching everywhere for the perfect woman (e.g. soulmate).

He looked high and he looked low spending much of his time looking for the perfect woman, and letting many opportunities pass him by to be with various companions, thinking to himself "If I just keep looking, I know I'll find her".

Then, one day, after many years he finally found her. But to his surprise, she didn't want him because she was only interested in the perfect man.

I think this little story sums it up pretty good imo.