posted on Oct, 21 2008 @ 07:29 PM
Now, in regards to my son (5th grade), he is a kinesthetic learner, he has been tested and this is his predominate style by a very large factor, also
he is a bit on the hyper side. Meaning that not only does he require movement to learn, but he requires movement just because.
In previous grades I have been very pleased, he has had teacher's that understood this so well they would do things such as buy him a "wiggle
cushion" for his desk so he could move without interrupting other students. Or make sure he always had a ball of clay so that as he was listening to
the teacher he could also be "mushing" the clay around in his fingers. He has always done very well, and even is involved in the gifted and
talented courses in his school.
My son is also highly intelligent and scores far above the 95 percentile on pretty much any type of intelligence test he has ever taken, which the
school system seems to require of him every year. Seems they are a bit confused as to "why" he is so intelligent being that he is also hyperactive
and has a learning style that they consider "not the norm".
This year I am very disappointed and actually on the side of very angry at the school system (teachers) for their treatment of my son. They are not
using the above tactics to assist him with learning, they accuse him of being "destructive", which has never been in question before, they berate
him for his need to move, they tell him he has to come into their classroom at lunch to get extra help (knowing that he NEEDS the time outside at
lunch to relax, run and clear his brain so that he can have a productive afternoon).
For the first time ever, my son is constantly having "stomach aches" and feels to sick to go to school. For the first time ever he is falling
asleep well before bedtime ever comes around, for the first time ever my son is coming home from school on a daily basis cranky, irritable and often
They are letting him fall behind, they are not assuring his continued development, if he does not catch onto something right away, it does not matter
as they move on to the next item anyway. Get it the first time around or not at all it seems. Therefor meaning he is not getting the building blocks
he needs for the "next item they are moving onto" so his building is falling down.
Which means my son is getting disgusted, and is feeling that he does not care one way or another. I have spoken with the teachers in regards to
tutors etc. The school does not have this as a support system so we are searching for an outside support system.
When we realized how far behind he was getting, he and I spent several days working together, we used the internet, found games that were teaching
what he is supposed to be learning in school and obviously is not. Do you know what he said to me very sadly on the second day? He said "Mom, I
have learned more from you in two days about how to do these things than my teachers have taught me all year". He said "Thank you mommy" and with
tears in his eyes gave me a big hug.
My son LOVES to learn, he is and has always generally been very excited about learning, but I can guarantee that the school system is slowly smashing
that out of him this year.
Now he will come in the house and say "Mom, my teachers are teaching about ______, I did not understand the way they were explaining it, can you
teach me?" I am having moments of wondering why I am not home schooling my child.
You know what pisses me off? That these "teachers" explain something ONCE in ONE way, and if you don't get it, well just too freakin bad. Instead
of actually "teaching" they are regurgitating, I don't even think these instructors would know how to really teach something. If you can't learn
it in the one manner they know how to explain it then something must be wrong with you, and not their "teaching" style.
To be honest, I have not been in school in over 20 years, so many of the things they are teaching my son now I never even heard of. But, here I am 40
years old, teaching myself these things well enough so that I can come up with the ways to teach them to my son. Meaning, I have to understand the
subject well enough, that I can add his kinesthetic learning style into the equation, and that if the first time I explain it he does not get it, I
can explain it another way, and then another until he does understand.
This means, that if today he comes home with something new, and he has to have the homework done by tomorrow, that I spend the next several hours
teaching MYSELF so that I can teach him. How can parents who have a full time job do this? Or parents who do not have access to the internet do
And then we wonder why our children are falling behind and have to "learn to learn" once they reach university? Or drop out of school? Or graduate
actually not knowing anything and NOT CARING one way or the other about the world? Well, my experience tells me that the school system squeezes the
love of learning out of people. I am seeing this intensely in my son this year. My little one who has always been the one to come running to me with
excitement in his eyes, his little body bouncing around yelling "guess what mom guess what I learned today at school can I show you huh huh?", comes
home not caring and not wanting to discuss school. He sits looking at his papers slamming his little hands on the table screaming and crying. I am
seeing the school system create something within my son, I never expected to see.
I am partially feeling at a loss at this time on what to do, I am so angry at the school system at this moment in time. I have never seen the
reactions my son is giving in regards to school work and learning. I feel that the system is causing so much stress in my child, I fear for his
continued love of knowledge.
I have the feeling that by the end of this year, I could teach 5th grade better than "qualified" teachers, but I can guarantee I could not get a
paying job doing so.
[edit on 21-10-2008 by amazed]