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Originally posted by computerwiz32
I remember girls in high school going after guys that were mean to them. Every week I would see a girl cry in the hallway because their bf broke up with them and found out he is going out with the next big thing another hot girl.
Originally posted by CrimeWave
What is it with you "nice guys" and your ENDLESS RANTING about why you can't get/keep a girlfriend?
Reason one: You always moan about being a nice guy who finishes last.
Reason two: Could be anything.
She's not always dumping you for a jerk. Why do "nice guys" always think this? She could be leaving you because you smell bad, or maybe you're boring. Maybe you guys just don't have chemistry. Maybe she's disgusted by the way you eat. Maybe she hates your friends and family. Maybe you're bad in bed.
Why do guys think that just because they are "nice" they are entitled to a girlfriend who will love them forever? Why do we have to like you, just because you're nice?
I'm nice, and I don't expect every guy to like me.
Jesus! I've seen and heard this crap for way too long. Sometimes people just don't like you. Get over it.
[edit on 22-11-2009 by CrimeWave]
Originally posted by unicorn1
reply to post by CrimeWave
Spot on CrimeWave.
Here's some breaking news for the whingers. Being 'nice' is not enough. All my neighbours are nice, the postman is nice, the grocer is nice... Does that mean I am supposed to fall for all of them?
It's not about being nice - it's about having an undefinable connection.
As for being rejected or whatever, it happens to all of us. Some more than others but that's life.
But for you guys, a little bit of advice. Be nice. We like nice. But don't confuse that with being a doormat. It seems some people can't tell the difference. And doormats are NOT attractive.
[edit on 4-12-2009 by unicorn1]
Originally posted by badgerprints
It's ok to be a nice guy. Just don't let a girl who you like know that you are a nice guy.
The best one I ever dated was waaayy out of my league.
She had looks and money and was just about as unattainable as a woman gets.
I met her at a highbrow society party at a museum for the braniac types, but these folks were also skirting into the money/society realm as well.
I came with a friend who had asked me to come along because I'm smarter than the average bear and he frankly wanted to watch me make fun of the society types. I was good for a laugh back then but the party was really pretty boring. I obviously didn't fit in. I wore boots and jeans. The rest were wearing clothes that cost more than my car.
Everybody was on their best society behavior and the backslapping and elbow rubbing was all about the status from what I could see. There was a great deal of hard work being done to project the proper image.
I, on the other hand, was very happy to partake of the very high quality liquor that was being served and went through my fair share of drinks.
I was young and did go overboard a bit on my booze back then.
As the night went on I got good and buzzed and started saying what I thought about the bunch of them. Sarcasm becomes comedy and I attracted some attention from a few of the girls. I ended up spending a great deal of time with one of the hottest women I've ever seen.
The worse I acted the more she liked me.
As a regular guy I'm pretty non obtrusive but when I get drunk and act an ass, I'm human catnip!
I dated her for a few weeks and as a precaution stayed with the drink before dating rule, and she loved me.
Everything was great until one day I made a mistake. I didn't realize it at the time but it was the worst thing I could have done. I met her for lunch on a workday.
Yep. Sober, normal, every day guy. I was so normal that she lost interest in me then and there. She dumped me the next day.....told me I was a nice guy and she wanted to be friends.
I tell ya what. When I was drinking and treated her like crap, she did things that no 'friends' would ever consider.
When she realized I was just a nice guy, it was over.
Of course I'd never actually consider a long term relationship with her (because i'm pretty sure she's crazy) but it does illustrate a point.
For some women, maybe most women, attraction has nothing to do with how nice the guy is.
It's about the emotional stimulation.....thrills...excitement....danger.
And, for some odd reason, girls would rather take on an impossible project to turn an animal into a human that to have a ready made human from the get go.
All chicks are crazy. Bank on it.
Am I supposed to be rude and stare at her chest?
Originally posted by silent thunder
Chicks dig dudes with money, power, muscles, or status of some other kind. Dudes dig smokin' hot chicks. And that's the way it goes. Not necessarily fair on either side but we don't make the rules now do we?
And that's all I've got to say about that.
Originally posted by LadySkadi
Women want Confident not Egotistical.
Originally posted by valiant
No seriously, I think the question goes either way tbh. It's not as simple as girls only like jerks! and guys only like hot girls, we're not all that bloody simple, I like to think not anyway!
Some of us are very masculine, some are not, some are romantic, some are not, we're all different even if it's in small ways, and not every girl will like a nice guy, nor will they all go for a tough guy. There's someone out there for us all, we just need to slow down and stop rushing it!