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"While I am not defending Riley and Riley certainly does not need me to defend them I offer this line of thinking.
The Quiet Storm, in their infirmity, is more feminine than Riley. Pardon the crudity but Riley has a bigger pair hanging than does The Quiet Storm. No offense intended here to you Riley.
And by the very nature of much of womanhood ..women tend to find this pattern offensive...that they should have a bigger pair than a male. They may find it useful at times that they have a bigger pair than a male but at the same time offensive..in a male. Most women/females I have ever known are not interested in underwriting a males insecurities/maintenance costs at their expense. It is not socially acceptable to most of them.
This is a long winded way of stating as to what Riley and others are alluding.
I do not believe The Quiet Storm fully comprehends what this means and implies in women/females and the relationship to why they tend to turn away from him. Once again ..no problem with me on this. The Quiet Storm is certainly welcome to spend their career in the classroom while the rest of us are out here in the world solving problems and taking RISKS..male and female both. "
Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
Rape, Fantasies, and Female Arousal
www.slate.com...
Here's another good article.
Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
I think women confuse the sexual response with their own "will" to be raped. A woman who experiences rape whether by real life experience or "simulated" fantasy, finding herself becoming aroused will be confused and question whether she really dislikes rape. This becomes the problem and it makes her insecure, and opens her up to the possibilities of being raped, and thinking she actually likes it. The body and the mind are different things. At least, the body and the will. A person in reality does not want to be raped, but then what if they become aroused?
To put it simply, anyone who is physically stimulated on their genital region will experience a sexual response, regardless of who it is. It is forceful stimulation. This doesn't mean that you really "want it". It just means that you're physical body, which has a mind of it's own reacts, because it's sensitive in the genital region. It's a purely physical response. Then again emotions are ALSO a physical response. I'm sure this can cause confusion for many, who think emotions are just purely "non-physical mind stuff". Everything is connected there is both physical and energetic.
Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
Pleasure is pleasure. Right?
Then there are women who want it rough. Ok, a knowledgable woman might be one to know what she really wants than a woman who's just being reactionary and thinking that she actually wants at the highest levels, rape. Also pain.
Some pain really isn't pain though, just a jolt, and during the mixture of sexual pleasure it becomes slightly more pleasurable or easier to tolerate. The problem becomes when both man and woman actually think woman really wants to experience pain related to true suffering.
Of course. I think some women are confused though and actually think they want rape and they want suffering. Then again... the nature of suffering is such that for any human to go through suffering he/she has to come to the realization or thought that one is actually "suffering" to overcome it by associating positivity with it and pleasure. It's paradoxical, the subconscious thinks you like the suffering, and trauma can set in and you're in a never ending loop of experiencing and attracting the same type of suffering over and over again just to become at peace with it.
Of all of the Female Humans on the PLANET... you picked Paris Hilton.... Why? I mean, She is not exactly the embodiment of a Quality Woman.
Every woman should have four pets in her life. A mink in her closet, a jaguar in her garage, a tiger in her bed, and a jackass who pays for everything. PARIS HILTON
At parties, everyone always thinks I'm drinking--but actually I rarely drink. I live on energy drinks, basically. I LOVE Vitamin Water. I have cases in my house. I drink energy drinks and Vitamin Water all night. That's how I manage to stay up late and never smudge my makeup or mess up my hair. You can see all these girls leaving a party at the end of the night, and they look terrible because they were too out of it to reapply their makeup or even glance in a mirror. This is a huge mistake. People remember how you look when you leave as much as they remember how you looked when you arrived. PARIS HILTON
No matter what a woman looks like, if she's confident, she's sexy. PARIS HILTON
People are going to judge me: "Paris Hilton, she uses money to get what she wants." Whatever, I haven't accepted money from my parents since I was 18. I've worked my ass off. I have things no heiress has. I've done it all on my own, like a hustler. PARIS HILTON
-Edrick (You and me, We're done... Professionally)
I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO CORRECT YOU... and my corrections have ALSO been rejected by you.
Yeah, that's the problem..... He also bears the responsibility for ANY women who happens to be in his life, as if she is not capable of being Truly Equal.
So, you are calling TQS someone who never gets out of the house, eh?
You really don't see your Insults, do you?
YOU DIDN'T ACTUALLY RESPOND TO WHAT I SAID.
And what do you mean by "Pass Muster"?
So why do you attempt to destroy their confidence so much?
THEN WHY DO YOU LET THEM VOTE, IF THEY ARE CAPABLE OF NOTHING BUT FOLLOWING?
I'm here to Rescue *YOU*
Postulate:
Confidence is Essential for men to have for Successful relationships
True or False (You picked True, unless you want to be Ignorant)
So, Are these underhanded insults HELPFUL, or HARMFUL to that Confidence?
Answer YES OR NO ONLY.
No misdirection, No Distraction, No lengthy paragraphs of meaningless Filler.
YES - OR - NO.
Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
No, he doesn't want that. I assure you he doesn't want that
Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
You know that saying "you can't rape the willing".. does this apply for rape fantasies as well? Or are the rape fantasies just watered down, ie with no real threat or danger?
Why is it so darn common for women to have fantasies of males brutally dominating them and co-ercion? Statistics tell us that it is common, so I'm not really making this up.
Woman just likes to be ravished, but so do men?
Can you also see how this can be horrifying to a male who would just want the best for a woman? To know that he is also losing in some "ravishing" competition, a cold hard, brutal reality check that actually asserts that women actually want to be dominated aggressively like prey?
Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
I dont know what you mean by "going with the fantasy". I don't go with rape fantasy. I'm just trying to understand just what would cause a woman to claim she enjoys, or has "fantasies" of "rape."