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It’s “nice guys” because that’s what THEY claim to be.
Since they lack confidence to express themselves openly, their approach to women involves a lot of ACTING nice to impress.
They’re not happy with themselves and so they have to deceive women into believing they’re something they’re really not
put up an image of niceness
but the girls they’re after don’t buy that image.
They need more self-esteem as their awkwardness doesn’t make it easy for women to read them either.
I’m not going to go through how “nice guys” with superiority complexes can be narcissistic again because I feel like I’d be repeating myself.
Being confident to express yourself doesn’t automatically make you a jerk
and they need to understand that, because confidence is probably the most valuable commodity to have on the dating scene
Nice guys can be nice without losing their backbones in the process. It doesn’t hurt to know how to have a little fun, too, and be interesting.
All of this is obvious, at least to me, and I’d be surprised if you haven’t heard it before.
You might think it’s cliché but real life experience and analysis points to its validity.
I have met a “nice guy” before, and well, suffice to say, he was not nearly as nice as he made out to be…turned out to be one of the biggest jerks on the planet in fact, and he never knew it.
Nice Guys? In whose eyes? How do you get that label?
Do you just decide that you are "nice" and so if that doesn't make all women go all humid then there is something wrong with them?
Nice Guys makes me think of a character in the horrible "Bedazzled" with Fraser where he is a "nice guy" with his girlfriend on the beach.....
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I guess where I get lost is with the idea that women are "supposed" to not break up with a certain man. I'm all for women dating, mating, and breaking up with whomever they choose; it's not like they owe an explanation for it.
The women who broke up with me, or never responded in the first place, are not evil or cruel for having done so--they just had other plans. Accept the other person's right to choose, and move on....
There are plenty of nice guys that do fine in the dating world.
BUT, they don't advertise themselves first and foremost as "Nice"
But you don't see them as advertising themselves as NICE.
and I gave you that quote from Paris Hilton and what females want.
Well first in the mating game there is no such thing as a nice guy, if your male there is only competition for attracting females.
If your a nice guy by nature or have been thought like that or raised like that....
if your male there is only competition for attracting females. If your female you really have no concept of this though, because they don't really have to try
things just come to them
You see it's just a game of insecurities, even this whole thing of making a good first impression is a deceit, because to make a good impression means to try to be better then you are really in daily life, or something totally different then you are. So you see in a way its just a process of creating illusions.
If your a nice guy by nature or have been thought like that or raised like that, I suppose there are females out there that would be into that, though most of them aren't into that for a verity of many reasons, foremost being money and power
there not really looking for nice guys or even bad boys, like that orangetom dude said there looking to start a family and the things that entitle such an endeavor including involvement of felling's, and comfort and whatever else.
Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
reply to post by galadofwarthethird
Women want Lying psychopathic, impulsive, deceptive, self obsessed/narcissistic men.
Originally posted by dr_strangecraft
This thread is an absolute riot on so many levels.
Nice Guys? In whose eyes? How do you get that label? Do you just decide that you are "nice" and so if that doesn't make all women go all humid then there is something wrong with them?
Originally posted by The Quiet Storm
It's not disgusting, why should you feel offended? Taking it a little personal?
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Oh, are you speaking about someone in particular?
Wow, you went from Nice Guy to Macho Guy pretty fast... Care to explain that leap of Logic?
Well, I would have to agree with you.... I am Generally Civil to people in all circumstances, unless they break the *Cardinal Rules* of "Etiquette", that is.... You know... Like Trespassing or whatever.