reply to post by berenike
No you did not rattle my cage and there is no reason to edit your previous post.
I am glad to hear that you don't read Cosmopolitan magazine.
When you posted these lines....
The impression given is that being nice should be enough and if it isn't, then the woman must be at fault for not appreciating the
niceness. Or even for daring to want more.
If you find yourself with an out-and-out bxs txrd, there is always hope that he will see the error of his ways - after all his faults are so obvious.
It is the pattern often used in those genre of magazines. By the number of posts and strategies I have seen this is not always obvious...either to
men or women both.
I do on occasion purchase those genre of magazines and take the quizzes to see what some of the latest drivel is that is spoon fed to many women in
consumption rates and entitlements. Not much seems to change in the basic formats.
However to be fair about it..I have found this genre of Maxim magazine and others to be precisely the same ...format for males. It is a male Cosmo.
One of the other males brought one to work and I asked if I could read it. I quickly deduced it as a male entitlement magazine out of the same stable
as Cosmo. Buy this or that or be no one...do this or that, think this or that or be no one. I found the appeal awful. Same as Cosmo.
I do have certain expectations and beliefs and I am not open minded about it.
The most difficult commodity I find to get or acquire from a woman is Peace. Piece is very easy to acquire from most women. Peace requires much more
commitment...children or not. Piece does not require that much commitment from most women. I am not open minded about this.
The sad truth about many of the men I know is that they will settle for Piece and the "appearance of commitment " and never get Peace in their
lives...much less will they know the difference. Not a good trade off as a career.
So many of the men I know ..think they have really done something if they get Piece...I don't think so.
At work..I watch these guys in the crew to which I am temporarily assigned. They raise the big shop roll up doors at quitting time on day shift so
that they can watch the women leave work. Many more women have been hired in the last five to seven years than previously. It is like a "pass and
review." But the interesting thing is the looks on the faces of these guys. I don't believe they even think about it....just react to a stimulus.
It is obvious to me...all other brainwave activity flatlines. It is the same when they read the sports page..or someone brings in the swimsuit edition
of Sports Illustrated...no other brainwave activity going on.
Primary Social expectations...I have found that most women have these at some level or another and the assumption is made that I have a responsibility
and obligation to cede many of mine to hers.
I don't care for it when I am expected or taken for granted by social roles that I fit into such a box without certain considerations..like..Peace
and the commitments needed to bring it about.
No ..drama queens are not pretty. I've been around more than enough of them..even before I fully understood the concept. Ironically I find many more
male drama queens now days than I recall in times past. I don't like them around me at work. To high maintenance. Same thing with such women in my
private life. I prefer women who are secure in themselves.
I am not into "Nice people" I happen to think the concept is very overrated.
People are people and come in all types and varieties. It is up to us to develop the tools to weed them out. To weed out the wildlife so to speak.
I never watch sports...with the exception of the occasional fishing program. Television...the occasional movie..Discovery or History channel...but
most of it is dreck...especially the news formats. I am just as well off to get my news and info from this computer.
Ahh...your living with a drama queen.....wow!!
As to having a use for people..I refer to that in a social context. The social belief/expectations. By this I mean ..not a high maintenance drama
queen. But something useful ..having value in the social context of a relationship.
Outside of that I am pretty much a private individual..not that social.
That is why I like the back shifts..particularly graveyard shift....Not much of a daywalker here.