reply to post by Illusionsaregrander
I did get behind, the reason was because I was homeless, jobless and pretty much destitute.
Once I do make up the back payments the amount as it stands now goes down to about $600.00 per month which still leaves me with trying to live off of
$500.00 per month.
Yes I know living in another state does look bad, (I don't really know why it matters, when I lived in Florida she wouldn't let me see him for over
a year anyway, but I moved so I could not have to live in a homeless shelter, and actually get a job. Once I had a job I started paying regularly,
voluntaraly what I knew the amount was that I was supposed to be paying. I have been in contact with CSE in Florida to get the income deduction order
enforced and gave them the information for my job.
I didn't just skip out on paying, that's not it, I have gotten majorly behind because of being homeless and jobless, and I have to pay for that time
As far as a second job goes, I am looking, times are pretty rough in Michigan, I was fortunate to get this job as it is.
As far as suffering goes, from what I understand my ex's, new husband, makes a good enough income to where she does not have to work and gets to be a
stay at home mom. While we were married she was the primary bread earner of the family. I don't know if they would take into account that now she is
a stay at home mother, and not earning a wage into consideration if they were to adjust my support order, most likely it would increase my support
owed because she could claim to not make any income.
As far as legal aide, my experiences with them has been terrible, when this whole thing started, I had primary custody of my son, (while she was
dating the new guy) but they did not take into account that I had any bills to pay, they refused me based on income. (At the time I made $12.00 per
hour) I seriously doubt they would help me now, they would come up with another excuse why I do not qualify for their assistance.
Father's rights is the biggest joke to hit humanity ever. Father's in general without money have NO RIGHTS. Plain and simple, I have absolutely no
legal recourse unless I pay an attorney, even then the only thing that would happen is the court would request (not enforce with any ramifications)
that she allow me to see my son.
She of course would refuse, I would again have to sue, nothing would happen, again I would have to sue, again nothing would happen, father's rights
indeed. That is just a waste of time I don't have, and money obviously I don't have.
My only real recourse is to hire a lawyer (that I don't have the money to do) and sue to reduce the amount of child support that I have to pay. I
would still be obligated for the back support even though it could be proven I didn't earn enough of an income to pay it. (read: any)
Poor fathers have no rights. That's the plain and simple of the matter. We just don't have any. Groups like www.fathers-rights.com...
waste to people that have no money to begin with.
Hell if the court wouldn't do anything about the 4 months I actually had full parental rights to my son where she (at the advice of her attorney)
refused to let me see him (a felony). What makes the court care now that I only have visitation rights? Hell, they would just let her attorney create
the amended stipulations, the judge would sign off on it, and I would be in the same exact boat I'm in now.
I only have the right to pay, pay, pay. Thats the only right I have. Other than that, I have no rights. NONE, ZIP, ZILCH,