On the topic of leaving the toilet seat up:
Ladies, you know men are creatures of habit, and usually have to do a "#2" at about the same time every day.
Monitor this closely.
About ten minutes before his usual time...go in the bathroom and remove the seat. YES! Practice doing this while he is not around, so you get both good at it, and fast.
When he goes to use the toilet, he will get the full effect of sitting on a cold rim and sliding into a bowl of cold water.
I call that trick..DUNKIN' DONUTS

On the topic of the toothpaste tube:
EVERY man should know that you squeeze from the bottom to the top. If they don't..I would seriously question their masculinity.

Or to try another tack ladies, perhaps YOU could try changing to adapt to HIM rather than constantly nagging or playing tricks to get him to do what you want.

e.g if his pants and socks have been sitting by the bed for 3 days ask yourself, "are they harming anyone lying there?, perhaps he likes them being there"

And on the toilet thing why should it be down to the man to have to move the seat to where he wants it? Aren't you also capable of lowering it down when you need it and then lifting it up after you've finished?

Remember its his place to live as much as yours. I mean, when was the last time he nagged you to not leave small empty decorative boxes lying around? When did he last have a go at you for wasting time watching E channel or Sex and the City?

Essentially what i'm trying to say ladies is just go with the flow because in a hundred years, who's gonna care?

Islam has no place for you accessdenied!

Seriously though, nagging doesn't work, you're right. The methods you described work very well.

Balls,we have to lift the bloody toilet seat up,if you can't manage the simple task of putting it back down again,without getting yer v*g all bent out of shape,then that ain't mens fault.
years ago,I had the idea of a toilet seat crossed with a pedel bin. I never followed it up,and a few years later,some other dude did.


The rest of your post I agree with,there's no point nagging at men,cos we ain't listening. The millisecond someone starts to nag at me,I switch off and listen to the birdies singing in my head.

It's why I'm a bender i reckon,cos I just can't handle the nagging of women. (I know not ALL women nag,and yes I know I have a rather limited experience.) But nearly everyone I know has this trouble. 1 guy I know even killed himself over it. (I know you won't mind me bringing this up mate,it's for a good cause)

My way of nagging works good do not tell Zap I have yet to use it on him. Because he does what I ask him to do. But I always ask the guy to do something then ask him again. If it does not get done I do it myself. No use in nagging about it. But I do drop those hints on how hard it was for me to do it. If you do it right you guy will never forget to do it again. Make the guy feel like you really need his help. We all know we don't. But it always makes a guy feel good that his woman needs.

I am very sweet up to a point. But Zap is one of those sweet guys he wants to make me happy. If I want him to clean or whatever he will do it. But do not take for granted those times. If you do not show praise in what they do they will not do it again. I love him and never ask him to do much. He is working now and I am not so I do all the housework. The only thing I ask him is to take the trash out.

If you ask my husband to take out the trash you'd think that I was asking him to build a six bedroom house from the bottom up in nine hours. UG! He'll spout off every other thing that he's done in the course of his entire life and everything I haven't done.........so yeah, I just do it myself. You should hear him if I ask him to change the lightbulb.

Don't get me wrong, he still does alot.....uh, some things...but only if he thinks of it and it is on his timing, so yeah, I just do it myself.

And usually I don't mind, I'm a stay at home mom so most of this stuff is my responsibility. Plus, I feel good getting three hours worth of work done before he even gets out of bed...yeah, right.

What I don't like is just plain disrespect. I have to clean the toilets, that's gross enough in itself, I shouldn't have to sit in the left over dribbles ! And guys, if you don't want to be responsible for putting the seat back down for the lovely ladies in your house, then you clean the toilets! And why should we have to spend an hour cleaning the living room just for you to walk in five minutes later and dump your crap on the floor? I don't expect that from my kids, and I sure as heck don't expect that kind of stuff from my husband. Houses get messy and I don't mind cleaning (ocd), let us enjoy a clean house for more than five minutes.

Ahhhhhh, I feel better now.

Rush

Originally posted by AccessDenied
On the topic of the toothpaste tube:
EVERY man should know that you squeeze from the bottom to the top. If they don't..I would seriously question their masculinity.

This IRKS me to no end. I cannot stand it when the toothpaste is squeezed in the middle - it makes me a litle crazy... Must be my female specific OCD (which I don't have) kicking in...

But you know what...my mom squeezes the toothpaste in the middle...??

Clearly its not genetic...

- Carrot

Great post, AD!

Our house is a "No Nagging Zone". Like you said, if you want something done, ask. Then remind one time. If it doesn't get done, do it yourself. (Only I never thought of those little twists on doing it yourself)

A couple weeks ago, I asked my hubby to trim an especially prickly weed that I always have to avoid on my walk. It's called a "cat's claw" and every bit as dangerous to bare legs and clothes. I reminded him once. Today, on my walk, I decided to go around the area and avoid the weed altogether, thinking that it's not going to hurt me to take a few extra steps...

When I got back in the house, hubby asked me, "Did you notice anything on your walk"? Turns out on the VERY day I had decided to go around it, he had finally gotten to it! Bless his heart.

A little handywork, and one less thing to nag about, ladies:

Yeah, yeah, yeah......
This thread is about the fact that I was expecting a nagging. I smoke in the car. I don't smoke at work, nor at home. For whatever reason I smoke when I drive. I do however enjoy a fine cigar at times while amongst friends.
Anyway, the other day I was driving to an event and was talking to my squeeze, (AD). I was forthright and told her I was getting ready to light a smoke, and braced for an assault. I know she hates when I smoke.
She too was honest and told me she didn't like it, and that was it. HONESTY people. HONESTY. It's what it's all about.
I do my own laundry. I never EVER leave the seat up, and scrub the toilet after a #2. I'm not a neat freak by any means, but you would never know I was there as I pick up after myself. My Daddy taught me that. I'm FAR, and I mean FAR FAR FAR from perfect, but I know how to treat a lady.
There are women who are nags, and those who are ladies. Find one and never let her go.

Originally posted by AccessDenied
Gimme a Coke, please.

Me too girl! And that other stuff....that starts with a P and ends with an I, yuck! And why doesn't my husband understand that a fountain coke is way better than a can or bottle?

And to clarify. I would just rather do things myself where my hubby is concerned, some things aren't worth the argument and he'll never change, but the kids...that's a different story. They do pretty well picking up after themselves. My daughter's job is the dishes, her room and bathroom, My son's is all the trash, his room and bathroom. My son is really clean, my daughter, not so much. I don't clean her room and as long as she cleans it once a week I'm happy. I only have 5% OCD remaining, but it works for me.

Rush