posted on Oct, 2 2008 @ 10:27 PM
Hey guys. Something's been bugging me lately, and I was wondering if I could get some opinions on it. About five months ago, my girlfriend broke up
with me. Although I was devastated, I'm also a pretty stubborn guy, and I did not hound her or ask for her back. I asked her if she was sure of her
decision, and when she said yes, I let her walk away. About two weeks after the breakup, I sent her a simple email telling her that if she meant it
when she said she wanted to remain friends, I'm cool with that. I said I wasn't ready to talk yet, but that perhaps we could when she gets back
from vacation. She replied and said that she'll talk to me when she gets back. That never happened, and it was about four months ago. That was the
last form of communication I had with her. The thing is, we were great friends before the relationship, and the relationship really only lasted about
5 months. We had A LOT in common. We were the kind of friends that hit it off immediately. Lately I've been thinking back to some of the great
times we had together, the discussions, the support we gave each other, etc., and it's really been bothering me to think that she's perfectly fine
just never seeing me again. My mentality this whole time has been this: She's the one that broke it off; therefore, she's the only one that can
re-open the lines of communication. It was pretty damn clear that I did not want the breakup to happen, so if it were I who suggested we start
talking again, I would never know how she really felt. Were we ever really friends, or was she just pining for me? Do I really mean anything at all
to her, or is it just pity? See where I'm going here?
But recently I've been wondering if maybe I'm wrong. Perhaps she feels guilty for the way it all happened, and maybe she thinks it's me who wants
nothing to do with her. I'm considering sending her another email - not asking to hang out, but just to at least start talking again...to stop
pretending that we don't exist to each other, and maybe get over some of the baggage. I mean, it's been five months and it's still bothering me.
Maybe I need closure or something. So much was said during the breakup, and if we could at least sort of...smooth things over again, there's a
possibility I could feel much better about all of it. There's no hope for a relationship between us right now anyway. She moved an hour away, and
we both work a lot and are full time college students. It just wouldn't work again, so what's the harm? Some of the happiest times of my life,
when I look back, were times I had with her hanging out when we were good friends. To think that all of that meant nothing and is gone for good is
kinda killing me.
What do you think? Was I right in the first place in that I should just wait until she makes the effort, and then forget about it if she doesn't?
See, a lot of my dignity is still intact due to the fact that I never once begged for her to stay. I didn't call her crying or write her asking if
we can just hang out again. I let things happen, and that's one of the only things about the breakup that I can look back on with a little bit of
pride. This could potentially ruin all of that. Any advice? Anyone with a similar experience?