posted on Feb, 16 2009 @ 04:10 AM
This is my first post on this site as I have been lurking and reading for a few days. I have been struggling for the last few years on how to
discipline my son. My parents brought me up that when I did something wrong my dad got the belt out. Did this type of discipline change me or make me
a violent monster? No, my parents where very loving and caring and always communicated with me and where very involved in my life but chose to use
this form of discipline. Now my mother tells me not to spank my son because it is wrong and that I need to give him choices and consequences.
People that say that spankings don't work and that they only teach the children that violence is the answer to their issues. Well I can see that
being true but I turned out fine and find that I can reason without violence or threats as an adult. (by the way I made straight As in school even
') This doesn't mean that I think that spanking your child is that answer but it is one form of
Here is my rant, when done right I think that both ways can be very effective and work. The same way that each person learns differently and is unique
means that different children will respond to different forms of punishment. You have to find what fits your child and just be consistent with it but
with the way families are right now consistency is lacking in most all aspects not just discipline.
This whole situation is a product of the change in society and fast pace that we currently live our lives. How many families still sit down at the
dinner table together and if you do is there any communication going on or just eating? No communication = no family I have learned this very quickly
with my wife and two children. The problem is like many said that both parents work and the time and energy to devote to your kids and family is just
not there for a lot of people.
America does need change and it starts with each one of us and our families. Good luck everyone.