Originally posted by Fillet ask a
reply to post by Amaterasu
I agree. Physical pain is nothing to me, as above.
Mental pain is the problem.
Conditioning yourself for the unknown is one way, but like Wotan said, adrenalin will take care of the fight or flight situation for you.
Don't worry about it, the human body is pretty tough when it needs to be.
Ah. Mental pain. Well, I learned something from Choice Theory (Dr. William Glasser)... If you are in mental pain, you are choosing it.
People say, "You hurt me by saying that!" In reality, the one saying that has chosen to feel hurt. Though we cannot control our emotions directly,
we CAN control them by controlling what we think about and how we are thinking about it.
For example, one might hear something and think, That person doesn't like me. And then... They may say, "You hurt me by saying that!" Or...
They can hear it, feel the pain momentarily (for there is about 2 seconds in which there is no control, but only reaction), but then think, Maybe they
don't like me, but even if they don't, I don't care. I can just move on. They may ask, "Why do you say it THAT way?" or, "What gave you that
idea?" And so on.
So when one is in mental anguish, one may ask oneself, Why am I choosing to think about this this way? Or, simply, Why am I choosing to think about
this?
From that point, one can think about something else, or find a more comforting way of thinking about the issue at hand.
An issue is chemical addiction... Many depressives, for example, are addicted to the chemicals depression produces. But, by always asking oneself
WHY one is CHOOSING to feel (by choosing one's thoughts) a given mental pain, one will gain greater control.