posted on Sep, 23 2008 @ 06:14 PM
Originally posted by seejanerun
Well I don't feel any better today as of yet, but I am greatful for the replies. It will probably take a couple of days. [snip]
But this post was about my anger and shame and the fact that I have always been one to say if this happens this is how I will react. It didn't
happen like that.
I know how to defend myself, why didn't I do it? I just don't understand.
I hope each day gets easier for you. Remember everyone in this thread is Monday morning quarterbacking, and more of us would do well to heed your
message that we don't know how we'll react until we're in the situation.
There's a lot of righteous indignation on your behalf, and "if I were there, I would have taken care of them ..." That's fine, and appropriate.
the practical truth is that you were in their territory and had to play by their rules.
You did defend yourself: you maintained your dignity in a terribly frightening situation. You did not "thank him for attacking you" -- what you said
was clearly sarcastic, and he knows that too.
I wonder if many of the posters in this thread actually live in urban areas. It's all well and good to say "we need to take back the streets" but
it's awful hard when the streets are all "those people" have.
Originally posted by Sonya610
Even in this thread, people are saying "well it was probably a dare" or "it was just a water gun" or "maybe it was caused by poverty". What? An
17 year old does NOT know it is not proper to physically attack a woman on the street for "fun"? The fact that so many rush to make excuses or
downplay the incident SHOWS what the problem is.
Saying that it was a dare, or caused by poverty, is not to excuse the behavior or downplay the incident. It is
(at least in my case) to
emphasize street smarts over entitlement. We are entitled to walk anywhere we want; that doesn't mean we should.
[edit on 9/23/08 by americandingbat]