The Three Myths
Homosexuality is normal and biologically determined.
There is no scientific research indicating a biological or genetic cause for homosexuality. Biological factors may play a role in the predisposition
to homosexuality. However, this is true of many other psychological conditions.
Research suggests that social and psychological factors are strongly influential. Examples include problems in early family relationships, sexual
seduction, and sense of inadequacy with same-sex peers, with resulting disturbance in gender identity. Society can also influence a sexually
questioning youth when it encourages gay self-labeling.
Homosexuals cannot change, and if they try, they will suffer great emotional distress and become suicidal. Therefore, treatment to change
homosexuality must be stopped.
Psychotherapists around the world who treat homosexuals report that significant numbers of their clients have experienced substantial healing. Change
has come through psychological therapy, spirituality, and ex-gay support groups. Whether leading married or committed celibate lives, many report that
their homosexual feelings have diminished greatly, and do not trouble them as much as they had in the past.
The keys to change are desire, persistence, and a willingness to investigate the conscious and unconscious conflicts from which the condition
originated. Change comes slowly, usually over several years. Clients learn how to meet their needs for same-sex nurturance and affirmation without
eroticizing the relationship. As they grow into their heterosexual potential, men and women typically experience a deeper and fuller sense of
themselves as male or female.
If some homosexuals do not wish to change, that is their choice, yet it is profoundly sad that gay-rights activists struggle against the
right-to-treatment for other homosexuals who yearn for freedom from their attractions.
We must teach our children that homosexuality is as normal and healthy as heterosexuality. Teenagers should be encouraged to celebrate their same-sex
Scientific research supports age-old cultural norms that homosexuality is not a healthy, natural alternative to heterosexuality. Research shows that
gay teens are especially vulnerable to substance abuse and early, high-risk sexual behavior. It does far more harm than good to tell a teenager that
his or her attractions toward members of the same sex are normal and desirable. Teens in this position need understanding and counseling, not a push
in the direction of a potentially deadly lifestyle.
A 1992 study in Pediatrics found that 25.9% of 12-year-olds are uncertain if they are gay or straight. The teen years are critical to the question of
self-labeling, so the facts must be presented in our schools in a fair and balanced manner.
HIV "Bug Chaser" Memorialized
January 16, 2006 - British editor Mary Wakefield, writing in The Sunday Telegraph (1/15/2006) describes her shock at discovering the underworld of bug
chasing among homosexual males. Her investigation into bug chasing was prompted by the funeral of a young man who recently died after deliberately
becoming infected with HIV.
Wakefield observed that the young man had invited his HIV-positive boyfriend to move into his apartment with him. Though he was aware of the dangers
of HIV, he soon developed the disease and brain cancer. His HIV-positive friend had also infected a previous partner and that man had died not long
Wakefield was puzzled over the decision of this young man to risk becoming HIV infected and recalled reading an article in Rolling Stone about bug
chasers--individuals who deliberately seek to become infected with HIV.
"I remembered being skeptical at the time--it seemed too creepy. After tens of millions have died of Aids worldwide, after billions spent on
medication, how could anyone seek it out?"
Her research led her to a gay underground on the Internet that described the life of bug chasers. She observed, "... there was a darker side, the
romanticizing of Aids itself. Google led me underground, to gay clubbers with 'HIV neg' tattooed on their biceps as an invitation for others to
infect them, to online chats about HIV-spreading sex parties, talk of 'conceiving' the virus like a pregnancy and the intense intimacy of infecting
a partner. 'It offers a kind of permanent partnership,' said a journalist for a gay magazine, 'a connection outside time.'"