posted on Sep, 4 2008 @ 02:17 PM
I second (third) the musician thing. I've played guitar since I was 12 (now 21,) and women really are drawn to it. I don't personally use it. I
usually don't even tell girls that I play guitar, but once they find out it's like a huge bonus for some reason.
In my opinion, unless you just want a relationship because you're lonely or want sex, ditch all of this "game" crap. You seem like a pretty good,
deep individual who probably appreciates a real relationship. Be real with yourself. Realize who you are, what you like, what your strengths are,
and what your weaknesses are. Just knowing yourself and what you're capable of can do really great things for your confidence. Then, if you
encounter a girl you think you might like, just start talking to her! Find a reason to strike up a conversation (don't be creepy though.) If the
girl is at all interested, she'll respond and in turn contribute to keeping the conversation going. If you're at all compatible, you'll be getting
to know each other pretty quickly, and all you have to do at that point is arrange a date outside of wherever you normally come across her (Work,
school, etc.) It's almost just like making friends with somebody. If you don't know her that well yet, all you're really wanting to do is get to
know her better. You don't need to be nervous or awkward, because nothing's even happening yet. You don't know her....she doesn't know
you....you just want to get to know her better and THEN you can decide whether or not to pursue a relationship. Think of it that way.
To me, stuff like this should happen organically or else it just doesn't feel right. If I'm being my real self, and there's tons of awkward
pauses or we don't see eye to eye on most of what we talk about, then we're just different people and I need to keep looking. Yeah, this requires
waiting, but so do most good things. Of course, if you're just after sex or someone to kill your loneliness....you can ignore all of my crap and
just start developing some game.