Almost a year ago I have opened this thread, because I was scared what happened to my kid.
It is time to close it but before I want to give you all an update.
Thanks for your support, your help and your being there.
It meant a lot to me.
A very special thank you for my dear friend rush who suffered with me – you rock baby.
As you know the little tangerine who is a teenage boy of 12 years and 9 months now, suffered a lot during the last 3 years of elementary school.
As I found out during the last year he was mobbed by 3 boys of his class.
The teacher never realized it since well behaving towards adults is much more important at that elementary school than proper social behavior.
At least it seems to me that way.
The teacher who assured me to care for my son after a good talk in spring told me to talk to the psychologist of the school service. I did so. The
psychologist told me that this situation is not his business; it is the business of the teacher, who said to go to the psychologist.
The psychologist offered to examine my son to find out if there is anything wrong with him.
They love kids who seem too functionate.
I love my kid the way he is
Anyway the toughest day was the last day before the summer holiday.
I am working since the beginning of June. My office is about 1 hour ride by metro away from home and elementary school.
The secretary called me about 10 am. “Miss orange, the little orange hasn’t come back from break, could he be at home. He isn’t answering the
phone at home”
I asked her if the bag of my son was in class, she assured me that it was, and so I could tell her that he couldn’t be at home, since his key is in
I called her back after 5 minutes to ask what they were doing to deal with this matter. To ask if they were searching for my offspring.
I mean if a 6th grade doesn’t come back to class after a break on the playground the teacher should search for him.
He didn’t come back since the 3 mobbing guys dealt with him again and made him really furious. He didn’t want to misbehave in class so he stayed
outside to calm down.
Not a bad thought.
Finally they detected him on the playground and made him go back to the classroom.
School prepared a little farewell ceremony for all 6th graders in the evening. They told little orange to go at home immediately and that it wasn’t
necessary for him to come back again to school in the evening. He was told that I could come to the office the next morning to get his certificate.
Very well, no problem with that since I was more than disappointed by the support we got at that school.
I just called the tangerine’s dad informing him about the situation and asking him to deal via phone with our son. I just didn’t want my son to
sit for hours alone with the frustration.
His dad talked for hours with him, which was great. His dad also talked to the school and informed them how disappointed and frustrated both of us
were by their dealing with such a serious situation. The secretary pretended to know nothing.
Anyway my son called me – crying – “I am so happy that I am done with elementary school.”
Than he spent a summer dividing his time between my house and the house of his dad.
When he was at my house he was sitting most time – at least I guess it was this way – sitting in front of the computer.
He tried to make appointments with his friends but they haven’t had any time.
Anyway summer is over. School again.
New school. High school (no middle school here)
He got a wonderful teacher, an experienced guy, born in the beginning of the 50s.
The tangerine doesn’t say that the teacher is nice, he claims he is wonderful.
After 3 years he told me for the first time that he is looking forward to school again. He wakes up early in the morning to go to school – all on
He had to choose his courses on his own – the teacher told them how to deal with that matter.
He is happy he is really happy
Started to make new friends.
Started to be the way we know him in his first grades.
Started to be our son again
So I hope the days of fears are over.
I know that there are problems in front of us, since we have to deal with a teenager at school
But I know that this new school is very supportive, that the teachers are more than engaged!
Much more than usually.
And I am building on that knowledge
So thanks again for all your help, for listening to me