posted on Aug, 31 2008 @ 11:05 AM
I think your thinking is turned around the wrong way. Your complaint about being "ignored" almost implies that you think people have a
responsibility to reply to your threads and posts. They don't. In general, people reply to topics that interest them or evoke a response.
You might ask yourself what you are here for? I'm here primarily to learn, which means I do a lot more reading than posting. If you are here thinking
ATS is some big popularity contest or competition for points, you may not get much out of it.
No one has an obligation to reply to your threads or posts, and most of mine so far have been "ignored." That just tells me that I need to start
better threads, or make better posts. What I wrote did not evoke a response strong enough to get someone to hit the reply button, that's all. And
perhaps they read it and thought "yep, I agree," which leaves them nothing to post since ATS discourages one-liners.
I am delighted and appreciative every time someone responds to me, and I try to say "thank you" in my replies to their replies, or in some way let
them know that their reply was appreciated. Every reply is a gift of someone's time; in each reply someone is giving you a little bit of themselves.
Personally, I don't feel that I have a right to sit around and complain because someone chose not to give me that gift, and whining will certainly
not encourage anyone to give me that gift the next time.
Instead, I provide as much positive reward as I can to the people who DO gift me with their replies, and hope that it will encourage others to follow
And ultimately, it's more about the subject and the presentation than the person. I could write the best article ever written about how access to
horse manure improves the taste and quality of chicken eggs, and if no one has any interest in the topic I won't get any replies. Or I could write a
really bad post about a good topic and still not get any replies.
In any case, and I'm sorry about being blunt here, it's just the way I am and I am actually trying to be helpful although it may not seem like it,
complaining about being "ignored" will generally get you nothing but loss of respect. No one is punishing you, you just haven't motivated them to
respond to you.