posted on Aug, 29 2008 @ 05:17 PM
Please read this whole thing because I really need some help.
I'm not sure if this is where I should post this thread, but I know that there are a lot of smart people on this site, and I figured there was
somebody out there that could help me out.
First off, I'm a 19 year-old college student and I have a twin brother. In the 7th grade my mother left my dad (on his birthday) to stay with her
boyfriend who she had been cheating on him with. After that, everything changed for our family. Me and my brother hated our mom for a bit, and we
lived with our dad and helped him through the difficult time. We found out that they had actually never been married because my mother would cheat on
him over and over whenever he was about to marry her. He stayed with her because he didn't want us to grow up in a broken home.
They had been together for about 14 years. We live in Iowa, a common law state, so theoretically they were married. She didn't try to take anything
from him when she left, but ever since then she has never payed my dad a cent of child support. She even left him with over $26,000 of credit card
debt. This debt was all on her credit cards, but she had conned my dad into refinancing our house and putting that money on the loan for him to pay.
He did it because it would be cheaper in the long run, and he figured they'd be together forever so her bills were his in a way. Just so happens she
left him two months later. Pretty sure that was planned, but who knows.
Eventually she wanted my dad to remove her from his house loan, which he did under the circumstance that she would agree to pay him a sum of $240 a
month until all that credit card debt was paid off. He made contract at the bank and they both signed on this with signed witnesses. She paid this
for a bit, but then said it was getting hard and my dad, being a real nice guy, said she could cut it down to $200 a month. Then later she lost her
job, and once again my dad cut her a break and said she could wait to pay until she got a new job. Once she did, she never started paying again.
Then, whenever he asked her about it she would hang up the phone or threaten to take half his stuff and take us (which he wouldnt be able to deal
with). She has taken advantage of my dad and left him in deep debt raising two kids on his own with no support.
Anyways, now my mom is married and has a house of her own with her husband. My brother and I, realizing what a tight situation my father is now in,
managed to convince him to see a lawyer about getting her to follow through on the contract. Now she has gotten her own lawyer and says she is going
to countersue and say that they were married and she wants half of his stuff. Is it just me, or does the fact that she's married make this
impossible for her (bigotry?). Also, can anyone give any advice that I can relay to my dad on how to deal with this situation and get everything he
deserves. I'm not sure if he can get some kind of back child support either, so any help would be very much appreciated. Neither I or my father
have much insight on law and other related things, so that's why I brought it here.