posted on Aug, 18 2008 @ 07:35 PM
Something to remember:
Alcoholics all literally have the same personality. When it becomes a problem they all adopt the same little tactics to weasel around society, family
and friends. There's money scheming, sticky fingers and lots of hiding behind the guise of being busy in its various forms. LIES are just about the
only thing out of them and they talk talk talk talk talk about seemingly nothing important in order to prevent YOU from getting down to business with
These are the people that we love, or loved but only a shell of a human when not sober. Don't let them fool you more than once, and wow will they try
EVERY time they have the chance. Don't leave anything of value around either as they ALL become the same embodiment of the ultimate thief, if they
don't have the resources to support the lifestyle.
Yes, these are the people we love and/or loved but they are possessed by the same thing that has the same personality time after time. The only way to
help a real alcoholic is leave him alone when they truly don't desire help stopping. The isolation will make them question "what have I done?" no
matter how drunk the thought will eventually cross their mind. Don't pander to them, or shower them with love as the fake reality shows say as well
as the shiny happy pamphlets, sponsored by the beverage companies, say. They ALWAYS love the bottle MORE than friends, family and so on while
possessed. You have to either gather the signatures and commit them (none of this stupid intervention crap) or leave them the hell alone as they HAVE
to want to change and fix it. You'll save yourself a LOT of trouble and heartache while letting the alchy sort out their own situation.
They have to want to stop and, believe me, hardly any do REALLY want to stop.
No its not wrong to despise alcoholics. They are the same greasy individual. ALL of them. Even people here on this forum that are former alcoholics
will tell you that they can't dream of how they had so much money to drink all the time and can barely scrape 2 nickels together now that they are
sober. The others were lucky and had lots of resources to fund their spiritual journeys.
No its not wrong to despise them. Someone with that little sense of responsibility is way beyond the scope of friendship at that time. Yes they
recover and only then should they be given any love, friendship etc etc etc. Positive reinforcement and a reason to stay sober.
I have a couple friends that are alcoholics. I've tried to help them, intervened etc. I've had to shut them out as the drama is far too much when
you try to help. One of them almost got me killed and laughs about it like it is a joke today. I call them once in a while and remind them of how the
woman they lost misses them, how big their kids are getting and how many jobs are out there these days. I stick to that line of talk and hardly hear
from them because of it. On a brighter note, I have some other friends that are recovered from the drink, from crack and other things that are more
than productive. They are almost maniacal in their pursuit of success, happiness and outdoor activity. There's hope, but they HAVE TO want to stop
and suddenly will if that is the case. Be there for when they do and be sure to tell them how much you did despise them when drunk, how much you love
them NOW and how nice it is to see them on earth again. Beg them not to leave/drink again.
It is certainly NOT wrong to despise an alcoholic.