Honestly, Do You Want To Have Children Or Get Married?

Married yes.
Children yes.
Marriage First.

For many years I wasn't sure if I wanted to get married or even have children. Being the shy, 'nerd' type I figured hell even a relationship would be a hard thing for me to have and I'd rather just be unconventional in tradition anyway. Now that I feel I have met the one, my finance, we are planning to be married next summer. I'm really excited about the wedding too. As it's just kind of foreign to me so it's new and plan to have it untraditional. Down the road, but hopefully not to soon, we'll have kids. Two would be good for me or even maybe adopting. Marriage is a special event, part of our lasting love, not just going to be in place to have children together(in an 'old fashioned' manner).

Married, absolutely, without question. Children, no, no, no, no, and NO, I will not change my mind when I turn your age.

I got married and I have always wanted to be a momma but I think it would just be irresponsible to bring life into this joke of a world as it stands today.
Part of me says I am being paranoid but the other tells me I am right in my hesitance.

I am getting married in November... do i want to... well... ummm...

*glances around*

lol j/k yeh i am happy to.

As for children, absolutely, however, not yet. We both want them, i moreso, yet we know we have to work hard for at least 5 years to get into a great financial position before we decide to have children.

Today I have less reasons to want kids. I just want a few cats, a dog and some goldfish. I think i should be happy then lol

Well, I never wanted kids, but I have a nine-year old no who I love dearly and I would not change that for the world. I wont have any more though. That would not be fair to my daughter at this point.

I had a husband once -got married at 19, and that was a big mistake. He mistook me for a weak woman who would put up with his abuse. Quick divorce! I have been engaged a couple times since the divorce, but luckily I waited to see their real personalities come out before tying the knot. I'll not have a man come in thinking he can boss me around, change me, and tell me how to spend my money I earn myself- aint happening! I cant stand clingy men either.

Maybe if I find a man who understands the need for separate private rooms (no not bedrooms!) I will move in with him maybe even marry. Of course I would also love him, lol. I just want to make sure I get my personal space.

All in all, I dont think it would bother me if I never got married again.

reply to post by raven bombshell


Sounds like me, I like personal space, I'm not clingy, I don't care to try and change you, or boss you around, and I like art

So when we getting married?

Originally posted by _Phoenix_
reply to post by raven bombshell

 

Sounds like me, I like personal space, I'm not clingy, I don't care to try and change you, or boss you around, and I like art

So when we getting married?

I wanna see a ring and our house first, lol. I usually look for husbands in ATS chat and you haven't beed there in a while, Phoenix! You gonna visit or what?

Originally posted by raven bombshell


I wanna see a ring and our house first, lol. I usually look for husbands in ATS chat and you haven't beed there in a while, Phoenix! You gonna visit or what?

I just got it to work!

But gonna come tomorrow, might see you there.

Don't get married before that!

[quoteI just got it to work!

But gonna come tomorrow, might see you there.

Don't get married before that!

OK but you may have to fight with Mr M. And if I wear Sauron down you're both out! lol He plays hard to get!

Originally posted by raven bombshell


OK but you may have to fight with Mr M. And if I wear Sauron down you're both out! lol He plays hard to get!

Who the hell is this Mr. M?


[edit on 22-8-2008 by _Phoenix_]

Mr M is Mrmonsoon or "mon" for short. I dyed my hair so he may not fight for me anymore if he knew. shhhhhhh

I never wanted to get married. I am now married. I LOVE being married.

I never wanted children. I now have a child. I LOVE being a mother.

That about sums it up. Life did a 180 and I'm loving it.