posted on Aug, 15 2008 @ 01:35 PM
Hiya. I would like to ask those who have a open mind and experience in the field of relationships.
I have had many relationships, however this one is got to be the most unique on the looks side of things.
I am not a type of person to judge the opposite sex with looks generally however i did have my limitations.
I have also been use to going with the pretty looking type girls, however, when i first met my then girlfriend now my fiancee she was 378 pounds and i
was 98 pounds, she also has a lazy eye. At first we was just friends, however, something came over me and i just started to cry and just knew in my
heart this was the girl i was going to be with forever. I had other relationship were i had been in for 4 years however it was abusive and
controlling, however this was different, i suddenly accepted her for everything that she was.
I met her, kissed her in front of everyone when i got off the train, I then holded her hands to show i was not bothered.
As time went on she lost her weight to 308 pounds because i gave her the confidence and she wanted to for herself. She has underactive thyroid so she
takes tablets for theses. She has brought me and my dad back together after 14 year, she has given me acceptance in her family.
However, because i have deeply fallen in love, i have become some what very protective because other people at times can look and laugh, not all just
one or two every month or so.
Should i feel guilty that i am with someone i have chosen for my self, dose it really matter that i have chosen to be with someone of that
characteristic, should i really be bothered what others say?.
What type of man dose it take to hold another girls hand and kiss her in public who is not the stereotype. The girl is not thin, clubbing and make
up type. She is always told by her dad especially yo lose weight but i told him once to look at her and you'll soon see how beautiful she really
is.
She is losing weight now and i have gained weight to 144.2 pounds.
She is like most girls though very stressy and diffcult however she is different in the way that shes mature and grown up for her age at 21 and is not
going out clubbing and looking/acting like a tart.
so the question is, what dose this make me as a man, because i hardly see many men taking a leap to accept a woman at any look. I think those men
that may take the mick, are men who are weak, because theses men who do say things are genreally in cars or are in public and say somthing after we
have walked over, most possibly because they know i would react in some what of an explosive attiude.
[edit on 15-8-2008 by deathpoet69]