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reply posted on 12-8-2008 @ 06:47 PM by ScienceDada
Originally posted by Mr. Swell
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Very true.
My main point was that certain parents believe they can homeschool their children well, when they are just messing them up.
It is a perfectly valid alternative, but it should be confined to situations where it will be in the kid's best interests. Possibly a psych-eval for the parents? Or maybe a professional could sit in on a few of the homeschooling sessions.

That is an interesting problem. I think that most parents who homeschool are very tired of the stigmas, stereotypes, and attacks that are typical (even of people on this forum such as NorthWolfe CND). So, they are defensive.

Couple that with moves by governments to force parenting styles Ex1 Ex2 Ex3 Ex4 Ex5 Ex6 and parents will move from defensive to offensive. In the extreme, if they feel that their children will be mistreated by the system or steered astray, they will defend their families... violently, if necessary.

I think that several things could help the situation:

A support system for homeschool parents, including professionals and peer-support would be very helpful. Often, this happens on the small scale with homeschool cooperatives and the HSLDA. The problem is that these networks are often weakened by the same stigmas and threats that were previously mentioned. Also, many cooperative networks are made up of people in religious groups, and "outsiders" often get little (if any) welcome. I can attest to this, as I am neither a Protestant nor a Roman Catholic, so it has been difficult to network in these circles (I think every homeschooler can relate to some extent on this point).

Parents could voluntarily get a kind of certification if this were available -- and I think this would see a lot of interest, as it would help build credibility in the public eye. The caveats with this kind of system would end up being a convenient structure for later forcing mandatory certification; on the flip-side, teachers in the various school systems will feel very threatened when it becomes clear that a large portion of the population are just as equipped (if not better equipped) to teach children.

Psychological testing should then be equally applied to all teachers, including public school teachers and administrators, University professors, tutors, and childcare providers. This would put a lot of people's jobs at risk, and I think that there would still be prejudice against homeschoolers.

Anyone have other ideas?


reply posted on 12-8-2008 @ 06:55 PM by ScienceDada
Originally posted by asmeone2
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It sounds like a family of 7 that i know.
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That's the most extreme example of homeschooling gone awry that I know of, but to a lesser degree, I've seen these traits repeated in other homeschoooled children.


Yeah, see that is screwed up.

I know a family that now has 11 kids. The mother was totally blind (not figurative, but really had no vision) and wanted to homeschool. We went to help, and their house was a zoo. There was even feces smeared on the wall! The poor woman was a wreck and she could not stay on top of the kids; it just wasn't possible. She is also a religious "nut" although not the holy roller kind, but a Roman Catholic & Southern Baptist mix

They now send all their kids to a private Protestant school. But still, those cases do exist. And the families are often VERY large.


reply posted on 12-8-2008 @ 07:01 PM by otherhalf
Originally posted by asmeone2
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I think it's bad too, but I just always take stories like that with a grain of salt is all, especially when there is an allegation of "abuse" as in the one about the family with 7 kids. Thanks for the links BTW.


I don't. I personally know people who have been accused with absolutely no proof. They got to keep their kids and they continued to homeschool, but their lives were turned upside down in the process. And they were ruined financially trying to defend themselves.

I am not a paranoid person. Even though I am a registered user of ATS, I'm not worried about people coming to get me. My views are pretty moderate, I pay my taxes, I follow the laws. Even the homeschool laws.

The one thing I am worried about is being accused of abuse or neglect just because I homeschool. If my children are outside in the middle of the morning on a weekday, it does run through my head that someone might call me in. People yell that homeschooled children don't get enough "PE", but then yell that the kids are outside playing and not doing school work.
People ask my kids why they aren't in school on a day in January, but don't bother to ask where they are when we are doing school in July.

And I worry that laws will be passed that take away my ability to homeschool. Even if it's not outlawed, more regulation or requiring a teaching certificate would become prohibitive enough that I would no longer have a choice. What then? Move to another state or country? Leave my kids' grandparents? Give up my rights as a parent to choose what I want for my children?



reply posted on 12-8-2008 @ 07:13 PM by eradown
Originally posted by ScienceDada
Originally posted by Mr. Swell
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post by ScienceDada



Very true.
My main point was that certain parents believe they can homeschool their children well, when they are just messing them up.
It is a perfectly valid alternative, but it should be confined to situations where it will be in the kid's best interests. Possibly a psych-eval for the parents? Or maybe a professional could sit in on a few of the homeschooling sessions.

That is an interesting problem. I think that most parents who homeschool are very tired of the stigmas, stereotypes, and attacks that are typical (even of people on this forum such as NorthWolfe CND). So, they are defensive.

Couple that with moves by governments to force parenting styles Ex1 Ex2 Ex3 Ex4 Ex5 Ex6 and parents will move from defensive to offensive. In the extreme, if they feel that their children will be mistreated by the system or steered astray, they will defend their families... violently, if necessary.

I think that several things could help the situation:

A support system for homeschool parents, including professionals and peer-support would be very helpful. Often, this happens on the small scale with homeschool cooperatives and the HSLDA. The problem is that these networks are often weakened by the same stigmas and threats that were previously mentioned. Also, many cooperative networks are made up of people in religious groups, and "outsiders" often get little (if any) welcome. I can attest to this, as I am neither a Protestant nor a Roman Catholic, so it has been difficult to network in these circles (I think every homeschooler can relate to some extent on this point).

Parents could voluntarily get a kind of certification if this were available -- and I think this would see a lot of interest, as it would help build credibility in the public eye. The caveats with this kind of system would end up being a convenient structure for later forcing mandatory certification; on the flip-side, teachers in the various school systems will feel very threatened when it becomes clear that a large portion of the population are just as equipped (if not better equipped) to teach children.

Psychological testing should then be equally applied to all teachers, including public school teachers and administrators, University professors, tutors, and childcare providers. This would put a lot of people's jobs at risk, and I think that there would still be prejudice against homeschoolers.

Anyone have other ideas?


You may need to join some sort of religious group even if you have never been a religious person. The Catholics have really good homeschool groups. Most of the people posting extremely negative stereotypes (to be honest, I think they are exaggerating because they are extremely irate with someone who homeschools)seem not to have school age children.

Some of the protestants are starting to turn on homeschoolers. This is because Churches have many members who are riding the public school gravy train and see homeschooling as a trend which threatens their pocketbooks. These members pay tithes so many churches have a money motive not to go against public schools.The Catholic church still offers sanctuary for homeschoolers.

The problem we face at this time is that there is a back lash against any sort of school choice. Something to watch out for is the attitudes the three presidential candidates have towards school choice and vouchers. People who are forced to use public schools are less likely to sympathize with people who can afford to homeschool.






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reply posted on 12-8-2008 @ 07:19 PM by otherhalf
Originally posted by Mr. Swell
reply to
post by ScienceDada



Very true.
My main point was that certain parents believe they can homeschool their children well, when they are just messing them up.
It is a perfectly valid alternative, but it should be confined to situations where it will be in the kid's best interests. Possibly a psych-eval for the parents? Or maybe a professional could sit in on a few of the homeschooling sessions?


What situations would be deemed to be "in the kid's best interest"? Who would decide, the parents or the state? Would you want to have to take a psych-eval or have a professional come to your house to watch you parent your kids? Why is it that these parents are deemed good enough to have kids under their supervision any time other than to educate them? Why aren't public or private school teachers given psych-evals?


Possibly because the government does not regard it as a valid alternative and does not take it seriously. The whole homeschool system seems underdeveloped to me.


Exactly what I think. The government/public is worried about homeschoolers not doing a good job, and then make it as hard as they can for homeschoolers. Come with an open mind, let us show you what we are accomplishing, help us if we need it and support us.


reply posted on 12-8-2008 @ 08:28 PM by eradown
Originally posted by asmeone2


Those who would test teachers and homeschoolers would use these tests as an excuse to confiscate children.


What I would suggest to prevent this is to make something on the state level sort of like the Department of Education, but for homeschooling. It would be entirely compsed of parents who are currently homeschooling their children.

This group would have the power to create that voluntary test for the parent that is being discussed.

They could also set the course requirements for homeschoolers and administer standardized tests in that particular state if it is required. They could also make a reccomendation to the parents if they think the homeschooling is not working for a particular child, and help them get into an appropriate public or private school.

What this would NOT be is a group to promote one particular religion over and another, though the parents on the board would be free to practice their own if they wish. It would be a combination of secular and religious parents who have in common that they are homeschooling.

While functioning on a state-wide level, it would not actually be a state agency, but more like the UIL groups.

This would help bring some regulation into the homeschooling world, but prevent government intrusion.



I disagree. Test scores have already proven the merits of homeschooling. It is a waste of time to test that which has already been tested. Further more , you may not ever homeschool , but this foolishness would be used to put social workers in your house voluntarily of course. If you want them there that is up to you ,but you are a minority among parents. Most people are smart enough not to let authority figures into their houses without a search warrant.

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reply posted on 12-8-2008 @ 09:14 PM by xtradimensions
Originally posted by eradown
Children are further divided up based on class. The children who are from well connected families are put into honors or gifted and talented classes so they can soak up the talents of their more gifted and more intelligent class mates.

The middle tier of the American public schools are full of kids from the middle class but not well connected families. Some of them are genius but their slot in advanced classes was filled by a child from a more connected family.

The next Tier is filled with children from poor families.

The lowest level of the public system is special education.

These tiers reinforce social casts and snobbery. Unless your child is guaranteed a slot in the advanced or high average classes you would be better off home schooling or private schooling.
[edit on 12-8-2008 by eradown]


I have no clue what sort of public school you are basing this seemingly ludicrous "class/tier system" on, but I wonder if you have any idea what public schools are actually like and how kids are graded/divided into classes.

The decision for which kids are put into "gifted or talented" classes has absolutely nothing to do with the socio-economic status of the parent, but rather the test results of the child. Believe it or not, on the standardized tests on public schools there is no question with "check here if your parents earn more than 100K" that will fast-lane that kid into an honors class.

The honors classes are filled with kids who are judged to be the brightest of the bright based on test scores, and these kids can and do come from any socio-economic background. What I will agree is likely though, is the parents who take a more active role in their child's education may well have a larger percentage of kids in the gifted program--and if socio-economic background has any bearing on this level of activity, then so be it.

As for a different note, while the public school system is good for many students, I agree that it is ultimately the parent's choice as to homeschooling or public schooling, at least until a child is old enough to weigh in on the decision.

Just as there are pros for the public school system, there are also pros for home schooling. The same can be said for cons for both systems. The posters who are heavily involved in either type of school-system seem to have a difficult time divorcing themselves from their system of choice and seeing both systems objectively. To imply that either system is perfect and without its share of inherent downsides is either naive or stupid. The important thing for a parent to do is to decide which choice is the best personally for his/her child and then do the most to minimize the downsides inherent to that choice.

Now for my thoughts on pros and cons of homeschooling.

Pros:
Ability to personalize lessons for a child's personality and the method of teaching which works best for each individual child.
Ability to speed up/slow down lessons based each child rather than the class as a whole.
Ability to turn real-life experiences into a lesson...eg...taking your child outside to watch the ISS pass overhead at 10 pm as part of "Science class" that day.
Ability to incorporate varied teaching tools and methods into lessons more easily--eg--weekly field trips, hands on experiments, etc.

Cons:
Limited exposure to different teaching methods and styles. (Sometimes it's a great surprise to find a new teacher teaches a different way and that you really enjoy it).
Limited interaction with children other than family members except often times in controlled environments.
Less exposure to classmates--and often times kids learn as much if not more during classes from other kids than they do the teachers. (fellow students often find novel ways to help their classmates learn a difficult concept).
Less exposure to real-life scenarios which lead to a well-rounded person who can deal with life successfully.
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