My advice to guys about women...turn the tables

I am prolly not someone to really give advice, however here are some thoughts on the female community and why snagging an attractive female shouldnt be as hard as every guy makes it seem.

First, let me start off by saying there are a ton of attractive women out there, they are honestly everywhere. Look up any local bars website and click on their "photos" section and scroll through. Thousands of cheerleaders, go-go dancers, promo girls, strippers, models (porn, swim, underwear, etc etc)

Now not saying you are looking for a porn star...I am only saying that there are literally MILLIONS of *ATTRACTIVE* single women on this planet.

The ratio of attractive men to women in my best guess would be 50 (if not 100) to 1

Now...obviously attractive women are in HIGH demand by all of us horn-dog jerk guys (sarcasm)

So if there is a high demand...and a high supply...why is it so hard to snag one?

I took economics...by my calculations...women should be in competion for us. ESPECIALLY attractive males.

Why is this? Why are we the ones who are always "chasing" after there angels who we think are sooooo rare?

They are not fellas.

If you are an attractive, sexy, nice, intelligent guy...always remember YOURE the rare one...YOURE in demand.

Treat every woman no matter who she is the same.

they are price gouging us on an everyday basis, they are banning together and making it seem like they are so rare and in demand.

Time to turn the tables fellas....

reply to post by Perfectenemy05


My experience has been that the really attractive ones always have bfs (or husbands) and you have to compete for them.

Attracting them is easy enough, but then you destroy the relationship she's already in.... and then her bf hates you.... yippeeeee! :bnghd: :bnghd:

And then if you DON'T take her.... then SHE hates you too!! yippeeeee!!!

:bnghd: :bnghd: :bnghd:

(I sure love the dating game, can't you tell?!?! )

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Wow. You just keep telling yourself that.
Whatever helps boost your ego.

out of curiousity, how has this been working out for you?

once this homeless dude tried to give me a stock tip. for some reason, i was just reminded of that as i read your post. not sure why. hmmmm

Originally posted by MrdDstrbr
reply to post by Perfectenemy05

 

My experience has been that the really attractive ones always have bfs (or husbands) and you have to compete for them.

Attracting them is easy enough, but then you destroy the relationship she's already in.... and then her bf hates you.... yippeeeee! :bnghd: :bnghd:

And then if you DON'T take her.... then SHE hates you too!! yippeeeee!!!

:bnghd: :bnghd: :bnghd:

what he said....




[edit on 9-8-2008 by LordInfamous]

reply to post by Perfectenemy05


amen bro amen

It also depends on where you live and who you are...

Just look at Vern Troyer! link

hey man, the "hot chiks are on your mind" as something as relative as "want" and "goodlooks" mean nothing.

You are thinking like a spermbank, we actually think we "see attractive women" because we as males want to mate with them.
This is proof of the human animal not being monogamous by nature, genetically speaking, all healthy women are a gift of nature, we as men will eventually find women beautiful if there is a shortage of women, just look at the war theaters in the orient. Monogamy, the real human kind is willfully decreted, we litteraly fight the instinct all the time!!!

Women want relationships because as well as the males, they as instinctual animals want to carry out their genetic programming, which is to further the numbers of the human race.

We aren't more different than "mere" animals, we just act different!

am not botherd about attractive women, ill have sex with anything.

All women are the same as far as your tactics to getting them, but just remember that high maintenance equals high money. They spend more time on the looks than they spend in the intelligence and they look for a man who is willing to pay for the ego boosting looks!

I don't post in this section because I could go on and on about the mistakes men and women make and why the divorce rate is at 60 percent, but I just don;t have the internet time.


Hmmmmm, maybe some day I'll have the time to really get into reading and posting like alot of you guys do. It is real time consuming to spend half an hour reading one thread and then spend thirty minutes posting a reply.

I just don't have that kind of time!

to be honest to turn the table is easy. Work on your qualities. Make them the best as can be. Socialise and make them chase after you. It always works for me.

Another good bit of advice -- learn how to actually listen and understand people! I don't mean spying on her to find out her favorite breed of puppies, I mean learning to read people's words, as well as non-verbal communication.

It's also good to compliance test. Make certain gestures or say certain words and see if she mimics you. If she does, either she subconsciously approves, or she is just trying to play along. Either way, there's your sign!

The OP makes a good point: an intelligent, joyful, straight man is rare compared to all of the idiots, jerks and perverts out there. Be that one in a million.

And forget about seducing a woman until (1) you have changed locations at least once, and (2) there is already chemistry.

I don't know man. I've about given up on women. I'm still young, smart, and attractive, but the women only want to be friends. Either that or they make skanky gestures towards me and it really turns me off.

I'm not interested in a one night stand. At all. And no I'm not gay, just got more self-respect than that.

It's a tragedy. When I find a woman I'm interested in, she's either got a BF or she'd just rather be friends.

I've not lost all hope, but at the same time, I'm not actively looking.

Well I take that back. There's one girl who works at the bar I go to. Been going for 4 months now. She's got a BF, but he's supposedly ditching out in a month or so. I'm patiently waiting for my chance.

My friend says there's too many fish in the sea to get stuck on one catch, but she's a diamond in the rough. I actually saw/felt sparks when we first met...

[edit on 1-3-2009 by unityemissions]

reply to post by Perfectenemy05

Thousands of cheerleaders, go-go dancers, promo girls, strippers, models

When you get older you'll realize that accountants, doctors, IT specialists, and construction workers are much more attractive.

took economics...by my calculations...women should be in competion for us. ESPECIALLY attractive males

Funny how in your mind ( and the minds of many young men) economic=attractive male and cheerleader=attractive female.

Do yourself a favour. If you ever want something other an easy lay lose the cliches.

Originally posted by unityemissions
I don't know man. I've about given up on women. I'm still young, smart, and attractive, but the women only want to be friends. Either that or they make skanky gestures towards me and it really turns me off.

I'm not interested in a one night stand. At all. And no I'm not gay, just got more self-respect than that.

It's a tragedy. When I find a woman I'm interested in, she's either got a BF or she'd just rather be friends.

I've not lost all hope, but at the same time, I'm not actively looking.

Well I take that back. There's one girl who works at the bar I go to. Been going for 4 months now. She's got a BF, but he's supposedly ditching out in a month or so. I'm patiently waiting for my chance.

My friend says there's too many fish in the sea to get stuck on one catch, but she's a diamond in the rough. I actually saw/felt sparks when we first met...

[edit on 1-3-2009 by unityemissions]

The friends-into-lovers spiel doesn't work for everybody. Let her know that you appreciate her as more than just a friend early on, but not in a way to set off her alarms. Maintaining physical closeness and light touch are not things that new friends normally do, so they work well to communicate your intention. If she engages in those things but still throws up the just friends card then she is a cock tease; just leave her alone.

Try to read her signs as well. Women are afraid of rejection, too.

Well I am physically close to her at times. I tip her extremely well. I'm not sure if that's such a good thing, but she seems to be okay with it. I'm just not sure if she simply thinks I'm a nice guy, or if it's more than that.

Last time I tipped her very well, I got a round of drinks for my friend and I. She went outside to smoke a cigarette, and we had to leave soon. I only had $20's so I decided to give it all to her outside, when the tab was only like $6.50.

She started rushing inside to get me change after I handed it to her. I told her with modesty not to worry about it. She beamed, and exclaimed, "Come her, give me a hug". It was the most natural moment of my life. We locked in for a few seconds, then I pulled harder and so did she. It lasted maybe 10 seconds, then was over, but I could practically smell & taste the pheromones in the air.

I left shortly after, as we we're in a rush, and I didn't want to make a scene, but I keep replaying that hug in my mind. I'm doing my best to not become obsessive...

[edit on 6-3-2009 by unityemissions]

[edit on 6-3-2009 by unityemissions]

Originally posted by deathpoet69
am not botherd about attractive women, ill have sex with anything.

really?

sorry just couldn't help it...

MW31

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Money is not going to make her love you, especially when you're being unrealistic. I'm not even sure whether she sees that as romantic or just creepy. Of course, she can't tell you off at the bar, because she wants you to be a repeat customer. She might be faced with a conflict of interest.

For now, it's better for you to interact at another location. Ask her to join you in some activity that you have already planned for yourself. Don't shi't where you eat (in other words, it's not a good idea to strike a romance during working hours).

I'm not making a single move on her until she breaks up with her boyfriend. Yeah, I've wondered if she thinks it's creepy or not, but I've sort of got around that by just tipping everyone well there. I tip her the best, but in truth, I think she works hardest and deserves it most.

I don't think it's a question of her not being able to tell me off. At the very least, she thinks of me a nice guy worthy of friendship. She asks me to come smoke cigarettes with her sometimes, and she gives me unexpected hugs sometimes.

The only question is if she's being overly nice because of the tips, or if there's genuine interest. Or maybe it's just a friendly gesture and nothing more. I don't think it's a question of her playing nice and disliking me.

How is it that I'm being unrealistic? I know money won't make her like me. I'm not trying to buy anyone! It was just a nice gesture to let her know I appreciate her work ethics, and how she is. She works harder than anyone else there!

I hear a great deal of men these days complain on the net and elsewhere about women, and how difficult it is to find a "decent" one. Well, I am a female, but I would offer some simple advise. If you wantto find a "decent" woman, you have to have "decent" intent. If all you care about is scoring a "mega hottie" to copulate with, then along with that coveted prize, consider your motives and desires and analyze them thoroughly. Most men aren't looking for quality of character, they're looking for whatever glitters the brightest and is the most ostentatious. Then I see some men complain that women are "no good', and "all they care about is money", and "women are all trashy you know whats", and so on and so forth. You choose to be led by your eyes (all three of them), and so you keep complaining about your pyrite. But there is gold to be found. Question is...are any complaining men willing to look beyond mega hotties to find it?

*Please note, I'm not accusing anyone here of being shallow.

I whole-heartedly agree with you, Seasick.

Intent is everything.

I do my best not to think in gross, shallow terms, but am guilty of it at times.

Also, when someone uses absolute generalizations, one should realize these are nothing more than projections of insecurities. No more, or less..