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reply posted on 10-10-2008 @ 02:46 PM by karl 12
reply to post by Grandma



Grandma thats a nice story.
I think the point about children being more in tune with their spirituality is
a good one.
The question is ,which religion do you teach them?
Why choose one of the abrahamic sects?
Why not go for Pagan,Rastafarian,Olmec,Eskimo,Polynesian,Hindu,Korean or Viking relgion?
Due to the fact of there being no evidence whatsoever for the various claims of all organised religious institutions,isn't one religion just as plausible,credible and feasible as the other?
Regards Karl


reply posted on 11-10-2008 @ 01:49 AM by BlasteR
reply to post by karl 12



Actually you are right but not completely on the right track (IMO).. Here is the dilemma with religion in my view..

Let's say one day Joe Shmoe has an "awakening" of some kind. He decides to focus his attention on catholicism because of what good things he's heard about it from family and friends. Joe becomes introduced and "indoctrinated" into his new faith.

The problem with Joe is the same problem everyone in every other religion has. Statistically, any one religion you decide to believe in is going to be a false religion. Once Joe Shmoe devotes himself to a specific faith-based belief system, he is instantly involved with a religious faith that is a tiny percentage/fraction of all religions and faith-based beliefs around the world. The numbers are stacked against Joe from the very start because the majority of the world thinks their own faith is the "true" faith while all others are "false".

Also, the problem you are talking about in your post doesn't really have anything to do with "choosing" a religion as if religions are boxes of cereal at the supermarket (although its disturbingly true since any religion will usually welcome new believers with open arms. People can, technically, change religions anytime they want. There is big, tax-free money to be made through religion!! "God" could always use a little more of it too.). The problem is how people look at religion like some kind of teenage craze sweeping the nation. Religion should not be about someone one day saying "Hey, I'm going to be catholic today". In fact, IMO, religion is irrelevant when it comes to a human faith-based belief in God. YES.. You can believe in God without being religious. You can be perfectly humble, teach your kids good ethical values, and be a good person without having to subscribe to any form of organised religion at all. If people have some kind of assumption that without religion you are lost, then they, themselves, have no idea what they're talking about.

It's almost as if religion is the stupid man's belief system in which Joe Shmoe can't really decide what he wants to believe in, so organised religion is the answer because that religion tells Joe Shmoe what is right, wrong, expected of him, and they put a very ominous-looking carrot in front of his face called eternal damnation. But why can't we just "believe" what we want to believe by making up our own damn minds? Is everyone so mind-numbingly stupid that the only way they can find god is by being religious? Well, maybe some people are.. but I know for a fact that there are alot of really intelligent religious people out there who probably constantly question the very faith they subscribe to...And I know some very intelligent, non-religious people who are completely content with what they believe..

The problem is that if you believe in something enough, any other viewpoint or opinion that doesn't agree with what you believe in sounds completely absurd. Maybe even "blasphemous". But regardless of "who is right" and "who is wrong" where god is concerned, noone can ever honestly KNOW whether or not:

1- They are even right in believing their faith is the one "true faith" while all others are "false" (which, in reality, is scarily ethnocentric).
2- Religion/faith in God even matters to God in the first place.

Most religions view god as an omnipotent being. The catch is that humans have free will right? Well, so much for an omnipotent God.. If God has no power of free-will, then God really isn't all powerful. We are.. The decisions we make have a direct affect on everything around us.

Here's another hypothetical scenario to think about..
In this hypothetical world, the earth exists in a universe created by an all-powerful, omnipotent God. God writes a book, teleports it down to earth, and it later becomes known as the bible. A bible written by God alone and within this book are guidelines, rules, and principles that, if lived by, could create a blissful world for humanity free from all evil.

People believe in what is in the book. The belief in this system eventually becomes called a "religion" among mortals here on earth. But, eventually, people break off from the norm. Humans eventually create thousands of other religions and faith-belief systems separate from the afformentioned "true faith" originally created by the one true God.

Eventually, a massive portion of society believes in spiritual beliefs other than this one true faith. Honestly, if God is all powerful, then God would have already known that people would eventually create their own thousands of religions free from God's influence and that the "one true faith" created by God would eventually become not so important in the grand human scheme of things here on earth. Perhaps the system, created by god, would eventually become so unimportant to humans on earth it would eventually be forgotten for all time over a period of a few million years.

But now, in this hypothetical scenario, the entire population of the earth doesn't even know that there is one true god-created system in the first place. Long ago, God made a pact with humankind. If people believed in his system, he would allow them to go to heaven when they died. If people did not believe in his system, he would send them to burn and suffer for all eternity in the firey pits of Hades when they died. But now, noone believes in his system and, as God can now see, noone has any knowledge that it ever existed in the first place.

God would then either have to send all humans to suffer and burn in Hades for all eternity OR God would have to cut them some slack and allow them into heaven regardless of their religious beliefs.
HOWEVER, God would already have known all this would happen before even creating humankind in the first place right? Because although God may not be able to control free will, God probably would have a pretty good idea of what would eventually happen..

THIS is the problem as I see it. God would NOT have created humanity in the first place if God already knew that all or most of humanity would be sent to hell one by one.. In fact, God would have already known that thousands of spiritual beliefs, religions, etc.. would eventually take a foothold on earth and spread like wildfire. So here is the big question..Why would god create humankind if we are basically in this situation RIGHT NOW? Believers in any one religion are a tiny fraction of the bigger whole of global spiritual beliefs. Is god really willing to allow the majority of the people he created to suffer and die for all eternity because they don't believe his way when noone honestly knows what that "one true faith" is in the first place? THAT DOES NOT MAKE SENSE....


-ChriS

[edit on 11-10-2008 by BlasteR]


reply posted on 11-10-2008 @ 03:57 AM by C.C.Benjamin
reply to post by BlasteR



Gotta stop you at "awakening" there, Blaster, because everything from that point onwards is subject to fractal wrongness.

Just because this bloke has an "awakening" doesn't make it true or valid. It just means he thinks something one day. This is not proof, this is not divine inspiration, it's just rubbish.



reply posted on 11-10-2008 @ 11:22 AM by mmariebored
Originally posted by asmeone2
If they[my children] were to follow any religion, I want it to be because they have a conviction to do so, not because some family member follows it or someone has pressured or scared them into it.

I would think that God would want true converts, not drones.

Thoughts?

I have not read all the posts in this topic so I'm just going to reply to the OP, hope you don't mind.

That said, I believe a good parent teaches their children objectively no matter which religion they follow. Because, if they are in the "right" religion, they should have nothing to fear about their children falling prey to another belief system when they go out into the world one day, as long as they showed them the "right" belief system as an option.

I disagree with teaching children they will go to Hell if they choose NOT to believe as you do. This puts pressure on their minds and they will, of course, follow your beliefs...for a while. But as soon as they step out into the world, unguarded, they'll have the opportunity to learn all the other beliefs and religions available and they may decide their parents were wrong.

If their parent's message was forced into their head using the fear-tactic of damnation in Hell if they dare not believe, this young person will hold resentment due to the post traumatic stress and unrealistic guilt they feel every time they try to open their mind to other teachings. This will produce bitterness in them which will lead to hate.

It's better to teach children the "gist" of all religions and let THEM decide which one they will choose, if any(which should also be an option).


reply posted on 18-10-2008 @ 12:55 AM by BlasteR
reply to post by mmariebored



There is a point to be made with regards to earthman's post though.

It can easily be argued that morals, values, ethics, all these things have to be taught (nurter, not nature)... I think most parents, regardless of whether or not they are religious, know that teaching their kids good moral values is important.. Because noone wants their children growing up to be a stupid, arrogant, hateful people with no regard for other people. Now with regards to ethical and moral values, religion simply acts as the source. Ultimately, the parents have the responsibility of teaching their children those things. Whether or not the parents are religious doesn't make a difference though..

There are a couple more things that can be said about this though..

1- Some parents are idiotic and have no idea what they are doing. Religious or not, it doesn't matter. Some people are just bad parents. In these cases, religion doesn't matter. Some of the craziest, most dimented, evil human beings on the planet are some of the most religiously devoted people on earth. There is a pretty big difference between religious belief and a true understanding of morality and ethics.

2- Non-religious parents are some of the best parents in the world.. I can say this from my own personal experience. Is it possible that religious children are taught not to question moral and ethical principles because they are in the scripture? IMO, Absolutely.. And only teaching children about ethics and morality verbally "because it is in the scripture" doesn't make any sense. These things transcend all religious/biblical meaning because THIS is the real world, not the bible. Parents are kidding themselves if they think they are raising good kids because they themselves are "good religious people".. Please..

3- Some people take religious devotion to such ridiculous extremes that they, themselves, are unable to see their own faults and flaws because they are too brainwashed and twisted to think clearly about the very real world unfolding around them. Some religious followers might even see themselves as flawless in the eyes of god because of their religious devotion and that they can "do no wrong". Therefore, anything they teach their children is going to be seen as "correct" in their eyes.. Then, Little Bobby grows up brainwashed in a Catholic concentration camp of a school and is released into a fast-paced world where "right and wrong" only exists in distant memory.. People don't become successful by being ethical and nice all the time.. Little Bobby might find himself as a manager of fast food chains for the rest of his natural born life.

4- Teaching kids about ethics and moral principles are extremely small parts of what parents should really be teaching their kids.. Parents who do their best to prepare their children for this unforgiving, exciting, fast-paced world we live in are the parents who are most likely to raise good, decent kids who are knowledgeable enough to make a good life for themselves. I, myself, grew up in a non-religious househould. One of my brothers is now extremely religious. But 5 out of the 6 of us grew up to go to college, get college degrees, and move on to a rewarding middle class lifestyles or better. Some of us are raising families and we pretty much all have extremely rewarding, well-paying careers and we all love what we do. Religon doesn't make any difference.. It's the parents who have the ultimate power separate from any religious ideals, teachings, or "values".

-ChriS

[edit on 18-10-2008 by BlasteR]


reply posted on 19-10-2008 @ 05:00 PM by mmariebored
Originally posted by BlasteR
It can easily be argued that morals, values, ethics, all these things have to be taught (nurter, not nature)... I think most parents, regardless of whether or not they are religious, know that teaching their kids good moral values is important.. Because noone wants their children growing up to be a stupid, arrogant, hateful people with no regard for other people. Now with regards to ethical and moral values, religion simply acts as the source. Ultimately, the parents have the responsibility of teaching their children those things. Whether or not the parents are religious doesn't make a difference though..

There are wise people and there are foolish people. What makes some people believe a "leader" of a group(a religion) is any more wise just because they have a following?! It makes no logical sense. EVERYONE should be ABLE to think for themselves, or they shouldn't even be having children.


There are a couple more things that can be said about this though..

1- Some parents are idiotic and have no idea what they are doing. Religious or not, it doesn't matter. Some people are just bad parents. In these cases, religion doesn't matter. Some of the craziest, most dimented, evil human beings on the planet are some of the most religiously devoted people on earth. There is a pretty big difference between religious belief and a true understanding of morality and ethics.

2- Non-religious parents are some of the best parents in the world.. I can say this from my own personal experience. Is it possible that religious children are taught not to question moral and ethical principles because they are in the scripture? IMO, Absolutely.. And only teaching children about ethics and morality verbally "because it is in the scripture" doesn't make any sense. These things transcend all religious/biblical meaning because THIS is the real world, not the bible. Parents are kidding themselves if they think they are raising good kids because they themselves are "good religious people".. Please..

Exactly, again. You articulated this wise observation beautifully.

3- Some people take religious devotion to such ridiculous extremes that they, themselves, are unable to see their own faults and flaws because they are too brainwashed and twisted to think clearly about the very real world unfolding around them. Some religious followers might even see themselves as flawless in the eyes of god because of their religious devotion and that they can "do no wrong". Therefore, anything they teach their children is going to be seen as "correct" in their eyes.. Then, Little Bobby grows up brainwashed in a Catholic concentration camp of a school and is released into a fast-paced world where "right and wrong" only exists in distant memory.. People don't become successful by being ethical and nice all the time.. Little Bobby might find himself as a manager of fast food chains for the rest of his natural born life.

This is why I say that if you are unable to think for yourself, it's unwise to even have children. Because how will you be able to know if you and your family are being led into a trap or led to do things that are wrong, from a universal and humain point of view?

4- Teaching kids about ethics and moral principles are extremely small parts of what parents should really be teaching their kids.. Parents who do their best to prepare their children for this unforgiving, exciting, fast-paced world we live in are the parents who are most likely to raise good, decent kids who are knowledgeable enough to make a good life for themselves. I, myself, grew up in a non-religious househould. One of my brothers is now extremely religious. But 5 out of the 6 of us grew up to go to college, get college degrees, and move on to a rewarding middle class lifestyles or better. Some of us are raising families and we pretty much all have extremely rewarding, well-paying careers and we all love what we do. Religon doesn't make any difference.. It's the parents who have the ultimate power separate from any religious ideals, teachings, or "values".

My inlaws are not religious in the least bit and all of them are far more decent human beings than the extremely religious people I myself grew up with.
I don't base my opinions on this, though. I've been observing the differences my whole adult life, trying to maintain a nonbiased point of view and understanding that some bias is unavoidable and should be factored into a final conclusion. My conclusion is pretty similar to yours and you say you didn't grow up religious.


reply posted on 19-10-2008 @ 06:37 PM by Simplynoone
reply to post by Clearskies



Which is why it so important to raise up a child in the way he should go and it will never depart from them.

The problem with parents these days (Whether religious or not) they tell the child not to do this that or the other and they DO IT ALL THEMSELVES ..(they are not being an example ) therefore anything they may tell them is not gonna sink in and they will not even care if they are not WATCHING YOU DO what you are telling them they NEED TO DO ( Moral and Values )
You have to be an EXAMPLE of what you teach your child ..plain and simple.


[edit on 19-10-2008 by Simplynoone]



reply posted on 19-10-2008 @ 09:26 PM by mmariebored
reply to post by Simplynoone
What does that have to do with whether or not to bring them up religious?

Are you saying having a religion makes them better parents?

Because the last time I checked all humans, no matter what they believe, have "sinned" and come short...

Religion doesn't make you better, it just makes your sins "forgiven"...
(according to certain beliefs)


reply posted on 19-10-2008 @ 11:36 PM by Simplynoone
reply to post by mmariebored



Marie I dont believe that was what I said ..

Unless you consider morals and values a religious thing ...do you ?

I believe that morals and values are not a religious thing but a LOVE thing which if you have LOVE then you have GOD ..


{Religion doesn't make you better, it just makes your sins "forgiven"...
(according to certain beliefs) }

Well then they are not serving the same Lord I am ..because my Lord has not only forgiven me but he has made way better than I could ever dream of being ...inside my heart soul and mind which has made a huge difference in the way I live and the way I treat others ..and how I care just as much for others as I do for myself now (after finding out what love really was through Jesus Christ our Lord in my heart )
Those are the things that ALL BELIEVERS should be better at once they allow the Lord in their life ..If they have not had a total change in heart soul and mind ... then they do not really know him ....
Really forgiven is the last thing I think about ....past is past ...so I dont dwell on it ...I am very thankful for Gods mercy and that he forgives me ..But most of all I am THANKFUL that he LOVES me enough to have mercy on me enough to forgive me ...


[edit on 19-10-2008 by Simplynoone]


reply posted on 14-1-2009 @ 09:21 AM by mrsdudara
reply to post by asmeone2



I have not read all 19 pages. My reply here is to the OP.

You are in for a bumpy road friend. I speak from experience. Here is my story.

I firmly believe in God. Not in the same way many churches do, but I am extremely spiritual. I have watched churches do more damage than good, and I really tried to find one that I agreed with. I was disapointed in everything I found. So, we do not go to church. Because of that, my children have had to face constant uglyness from their peers at school. Those who called themselfs "Christians" belittled my sons. Said they were going to hell, that they did not believe in God, and hounded them every freggin week to go to church with them. The parents who found out that there were two boys whose parents did not take to church, were like pirranahas. It was disgusting. Honestly.

I have always been open and honest with my children about it all. Every time they would come home all irritated and upset, we would sit down and talk about it. I would ask them if they believed in God - "well, yea!" they would say. I would ask them if they believed in Jesus - "yea" they would say, looking at me like I had 4 heads. I would then ask them what they though a Christian was. To make a long story short, I would talk to them until they were secure enough with themselves that they would not be rattled and be able to politely stand up for them selfs.

We pray every night. We go to our church. The boys call it our family church. We go out in the middle of nature. We dont want fancy buildings, or gold plated statues. We dont want to go to a show. We dont want to put on a fancy clothes, fancy hair, and make an apperance.

We want to be surounded by everything that is God made. We want to be reminded that most of what we get bombarded with every day, is not important. We want to remember the beautiful miricle of life. How everything has been provided for us. It is humbling to be reminded how much mankind has screwed it up. It encourages us to do better. We talk, and walk for hours. Most of the time, its the kids talking. My husband and I are always amazed at how much they come up with on their own. We learn just as much from them as they learn from us.
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