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The case, which had previously gone unreported, involved an engineer in his 30s, named as Mr X, who married Ms Y, a student nurse in her 20s, in 2006. The wedding night party was still under way at the family’s home in Roubaix when the groom came down from the bedroom complaining that his bride was not a virgin. He could not display the blood-stained sheet that is traditionally exhibited as proof of the bride’s “purity”. Mr X went to court the following morning and was granted a annulment on the grounds that his bride had deceived him on “one of the essential elements” of the marriage. In disgrace with both families, she acknowledged that she had led her groom to believe that she was a virgin when she had already had sexual intercourse. She did not oppose the annulment...
...Elisabeth Badinter, a philosopher and pioneer of women’s legal rights, said that she felt shame for the French justice system. “The sexuality of women in France is a private and free matter,” she said. “The annulment will just serve to send young Muslim girls running to hospitals to have their hymens restored.” Timesonline
My only issues with porn is that I very rarely see real women in them. Real women have hair, dimples, and lots of imperfections. When I see a porn star I can't help but wonder " Does my man want me to look like that?"
Originally posted by optimus primal
you know i see a point being made several times throughout this thread and being completely ignored by everyone except the men every single time. the whole "some women never have an orgasm in their entire life!" when the fact remains that in most of those cases it's because the women NEVER TELL THE MAN WHAT IT IS THAT TRULY GETS THEM GOING. the woman i dated before i met my wife was exactly like that, rarely had an orgasm. i had no idea what was wrong and it made me feel terrible as a man. she never told me what it was i was doing wrong or wasn't doing and that relationship fell to crap pretty quickly. my wife is much different and we're quite happy and she doesn't have the rare orgasm problem. we also frequently watch porn together, not by my suggestion by the way, and she has no problem with it.
maybe if you're a woman and you have that problem instead of blaming the porn on his not satisfying you, you should actually (gasp!) talk to him and tell him what you like and what you dont like.....strange...it's kind of like every other part of a relationship. weird.
i think a lot of the women who feel inadequate next to porn need to take a reality check. if porn queens is what all men wanted, well they'd all be married and the rest of you would be single for the rest of your lives...as that's not happening i guess it's not true eh?. as a few guys have stated, it can be a good thing and it can be a bad thing...it all depends on the situation. labeling it as the cause for unhealthy relationships and divorce is really pretty ignorant though.
Originally posted by Illusionsaregrander
reply to post by Res Ipsa
No. Sorry. The Harvard analogy doesnt make it more clear to me, however, I dont want to drag it on and torture everyone else. It seems to me essentially an argument from tradition.
For instance with the Harvard analogy, you never make it clear that the analogy to not being a virgin actually plays out in fact as qualifying you for a less successful marriage. You claim it does,
Anyway, I am not trying to be thick. I just think we differ on the subject. If only a virgin is worth loving or marrying in your opinion, that is absolutely your prerogative. I dont think it is objectively wrong, only that I dont share the sentiment.
Originally posted by optimus primal
you know i see a point being made several times throughout this thread and being completely ignored by everyone except the men every single time. the whole "some women never have an orgasm in their entire life!" when the fact remains that in most of those cases it's because the women NEVER TELL THE MAN WHAT IT IS THAT TRULY GETS THEM GOING. the woman i dated before i met my wife was exactly like that, rarely had an orgasm. i had no idea what was wrong and it made me feel terrible as a man. she never told me what it was i was doing wrong or wasn't doing and that relationship fell to crap pretty quickly. my wife is much different and we're quite happy and she doesn't have the rare orgasm problem. we also frequently watch porn together, not by my suggestion by the way, and she has no problem with it.
maybe if you're a woman and you have that problem instead of blaming the porn on his not satisfying you, you should actually (gasp!) talk to him and tell him what you like and what you dont like.....strange...it's kind of like every other part of a relationship. weird.
Originally posted by Illusionsaregrander
...I think it is a big mistake to confuse tough talk with actual capability. It is definitely a mistake to confuse nice with weak.
Originally posted by Res Ipsa
It was just commentary regarding "todays" professional career driven women. They wouldn't interest me for a long term relationship mostly because I wouldn't trust them as far as I could throw them.
Originally posted by BiohazardsBack
...I don't know any woman who would purposefully deprive herself of pleasure in a sexual relationship, unless she had some sort of harsh religious upbringing that made her think sex was wrong.
...
Originally posted by BiohazardsBack
Personally, I resent that.
You automatically assume that it is the fault of the woman somehow WITHOLDING the information about what she likes.
Nobody would do that.
If she doesn't know what she wants, then obviously she can't tell you. In which case you TRY things until you find what works.
I don't know any woman who would purposefully deprive herself of pleasure in a sexual relationship, unless she had some sort of harsh religious upbringing that made her think sex was wrong.
Did you ever think that maybe some men simply refuse to try?
Not all, but some, who think that the second their own needs are fulfilled, sex is done, and they go off and do something else, be it sleep, video games, watching tv, or anything else.
Don't say it doesn't happen, because it does.
Originally posted by Illusionsaregrander
...stated that she felt she could not love a man who expressed emotion by crying. After a little probing she did admit that crying when someone died might be okay, but she felt that over a movie, or some frustration, or during an argument that that was an indication of weakness, of "unmanliness."
...
Originally posted by BiohazardsBack
...Did you ever think that maybe some men simply refuse to try?
Not all, but some, who think that the second their own needs are fulfilled, sex is done, and they go off and do something else, be it sleep, video games, watching tv, or anything else.
Don't say it doesn't happen, because it does.
Originally posted by BiohazardsBack
Originally posted by optimus primal
you know i see a point being made several times throughout this thread and being completely ignored by everyone except the men every single time. the whole "some women never have an orgasm in their entire life!" when the fact remains that in most of those cases it's because the women NEVER TELL THE MAN WHAT IT IS THAT TRULY GETS THEM GOING. the woman i dated before i met my wife was exactly like that, rarely had an orgasm. i had no idea what was wrong and it made me feel terrible as a man. she never told me what it was i was doing wrong or wasn't doing and that relationship fell to crap pretty quickly. my wife is much different and we're quite happy and she doesn't have the rare orgasm problem. we also frequently watch porn together, not by my suggestion by the way, and she has no problem with it.
maybe if you're a woman and you have that problem instead of blaming the porn on his not satisfying you, you should actually (gasp!) talk to him and tell him what you like and what you dont like.....strange...it's kind of like every other part of a relationship. weird.
Personally, I resent that.
You automatically assume that it is the fault of the woman somehow WITHOLDING the information about what she likes.
Nobody would do that.
If she doesn't know what she wants, then obviously she can't tell you. In which case you TRY things until you find what works.
I don't know any woman who would purposefully deprive herself of pleasure in a sexual relationship, unless she had some sort of harsh religious upbringing that made her think sex was wrong.
Did you ever think that maybe some men simply refuse to try?
Not all, but some, who think that the second their own needs are fulfilled, sex is done, and they go off and do something else, be it sleep, video games, watching tv, or anything else.
Don't say it doesn't happen, because it does.