reply to post by Clearskies
I'm sorry if this answer sounds callous, but i can only answer what i believe. No i don't know how demoralizing it can be to see children and know
you killed yours, that is not the path i chose. But i do know that a woman that chooses that path, for whatever reasons, must come to terms with that
on her own and has no right to try to force her moral beliefs on others because of her feelings of guilt. Every woman must make her own choices based
on what's right for her.
Yes a pell grant does help pay for college, but doesn't cover all the expences that need to be covered. If the mother has to work and go to school
full time, then come home and study, when does she have time to take care of her child? And where does she get the money for daycare while she's
working AND going to school ? Not all women have the help and support of loving families.
Believe me i know what motherhood is, i was 17 years old when i became a mother. I was 19 and pregnant with my second son when their father decided
that he didn't want to be a father and took off without ever looking back.
I also know that you do whatever you have to do to raise your children. I have come home with my hands swollen filled with metal slivers working in a
factory, my hands swollen filled with thorns working in a flower shop, disgusted by the vulgar comments i had to endure from drunks while working as a
bartender, worked for half the pay that my male coworkers were making and having my boss tell me when i asked for a raise that the men made more than
me because they had families to support and that i as a woman could go find a boyfriend to help me pay my bills.
I have gotten up at 6am, taken 2 buses and a train to take my boys to school and then go to work, to go pick them up after work go home cook, clean,
do laundry, help with homework, no time for me and get up the next day to do it all over again.
I wasn't worried about new clothes (i had three pairs of jeans, four or five shirts, and a pair of canvas gymshoes), or getting my hair done, but my
boys had everything they needed. God knows i never went out (i can count the times on my two hands) it was more important to me that my boys have
their mother with them whenever i wasn't at work.
I did go back to school to get my GED, then on to college with a scholarship and pell grant, although i had to wait until i was 36 to do it. I worked
my butt off got my associates with high honors and a scholarship to UIC. My grandson was born 3 1/2 months premature and has a lot of health problems
so i put the rest of education on hold after my associates to help my son with him.
So again yes i do know what motherhood is. I'm 47 years old and if i could go back in time and do it over again i would do it the same way because
there is NOTHING in this world that i love more than my sons and my grandchildren. However i am very grateful that the choices were mine to make and
that i was not forced into having an unwanted child that i was not prepared to take care of, and every woman in this world should be given that
Motherhood is the hardest job in the world and i don't know of any 14 year old girls that could possibly do it without a vast amount of support from
family and friends.
As far as pregancies resulting from rape accounting for only 2% of abortions i find those figures hard to believe, especially since their are still so
many women out there that still don't even report being raped. Also there is the fact that they now have the morning after pill for the possibility
of pregnancy in rape cases and i don't believe that that gets reported as an abortion, which would make the number of abortions due do rape appear
Not all pregnancies are a result of unprotected sex, no birth control is fullproof. No matter what the reason for the pregnancy, no women should ever
be forced to have a child, especially since it will ultimately be the innocent child that suffers.
[edit on 1/9/08 by chise61]