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Originally posted by sc2099
Has anyone else noticed that women tend to be much more likely to try to find common ground with their significant other than men are? It seems to me that women are much more willing to watch a football game or cheer for the home team than men are to read a book their wife read or take a trip to one of their favorite places. Why does everyone think that is?
Originally posted by saint4God
Originally posted by sc2099
Has anyone else noticed that women tend to be much more likely to try to find common ground with their significant other than men are? It seems to me that women are much more willing to watch a football game or cheer for the home team than men are to read a book their wife read or take a trip to one of their favorite places. Why does everyone think that is?
Social pressure. How many women have you seen in a football jersey? How many men have you seen in a dress? Men are afraid to be seen by other men doing non-manly things. My question is, if they go somewhere non-manly and see other men, then what does that say about the other men? Catch-22 really. Also, if you're the only man there...that isn't exactly what most men would consider a "bad situation" now is it?
[edit on 30-7-2008 by saint4God]
A fun musical grunge dude, that can dress slick if he needs to... Knows how to hang out with the guys.. confidence outweighs most things. You sound fun. I wouldn't change a thing from here.
Originally posted by Scurvy
The way things play out when you're out with the guys is entirely different than when there is even one female present. We ridicule each other constantly. It's all in good fun and it's just the natural way most groups of males interact. It is also more prominent when you're around guys you're comfortable with because everyone knows not to take offense.
If one of the dudes catches wind of their buddy doing anything "girly" (best example is my haggard friend who did a pole dance at a bar ) that guy is in for eternal harassment. We don't want to give our friends ammo. Where girls feel they have to look pretty to avoid ridicule, we have to abstain from girly activities.
For the record the guy who did a pole dance does still get harassed for it. We have no mercy haha.
EDIT TO ADD: If you want a guy to do something he wouldn't normally do you would have to approach him when you're alone and plan on doing that activity with just the two of you. We can be very flexible when the situation is presented in a way where we aren't inclined to just react right away, this is usually a very non-aggressive approach. "Why do you never want to do what I want to do!" is not a good way to approach it because then the guy feels like he's entering a battlefield.
[edit on 30/7/2008 by Scurvy]
Originally posted by saint4God
Picking up the slack:
I found out my spouse hated putting away clean dishes. This is good, because I hate dealing with dirty dishes. The plan? Spouse takes care of the dirty, I put away the clean. For responsibilities we both don't like, we trade them off. This time I do the laundry, next time I take out the trash, etc. Sure, we can go with traditional roles (men mow the lawn, women vacuum the rug) but if they really really don't like doing them, perhaps a swap is in order.
[edit on 30-7-2008 by saint4God]
You are only 21 right? have fun. They will come when you are not looking. Just remember we don't usually make the first move. If you see the same woman hanging around a lot, chances are she wants you to notice her.
Originally posted by Scurvy
reply to post by seagrass
Thank you very much. You should come up to Saskatchewan and tell all the girls here that, I may have more luck
Originally posted by sc2099
A man doesn't have to put on a dress to identify with a woman.
Originally posted by sc2099
And why is doing something your wife likes non-manly?
Originally posted by sc2099
I would say most activities are gender neutral, outside of chick flicks and farting contests.
Originally posted by sc2099
The point is women are willing to branch out and try something than men are.
Originally posted by sc2099
Take hiking for example - totally gender neutral. If a woman was with a man who liked hiking she would be much more likely to give it a try, even if she's never liked it than a man would be in the same situation.
Originally posted by amatrine
I also hate putting away clean dishes and I will tell you why. It does not clear up space or make anything look cleaner. Its a job that takes time and has nothing to show for itself as far as the cleanliness of the kitchen. When I put in dirty ones, something looks done.
Originally posted by Scurvy
reply to post by seagrass
Thank you very much. You should come up to Saskatchewan and tell all the girls here that, I may have more luck
Originally posted by saint4God
Anyway, I think from the male point of view, there may be a lot more activities considered women's activities than women may realize.
Originally posted by seagrass
The best pick up line I have ever seen is.. a nod and a smile. It doesn't say anything, except "hey how are ya" or " hey I see you there and it makes me smile"
Good one. I ended up having one of those with my husband. I don't remember what we talked about...but it went on forever. I had phone ear when we were done.
Originally posted by saint4God
Originally posted by seagrass
The best pick up line I have ever seen is.. a nod and a smile. It doesn't say anything, except "hey how are ya" or " hey I see you there and it makes me smile"
For me, I was hook line and sinker when my sig. other and I talked about what would happen if the world were to end over the phone until 5 a.m. That kind of depth had both my head and heart swimming.
That's a great story. I bet leaving that number was scary a little too.
Originally posted by amatrine
It is true that woman are not as ready to approach a man. In my case,
when I met my husband, was during the 100 year flood in Reno Nevada. I was out with friends on the wrong side of the river, when the bridge collapsed.
So I went to a bar. There were three other men in there. One guy was trying to pick up on me, he was a funny little dude, that was telling me how he worshiped Satan, and wanted me to go skiing with him. No joke. I just wanted away from the dork. I saw my husband to be and another guy playing pool. I thought he was cute, so I put quarters on the table to get to play him pool and meet him.
Well he lost, and I had to play the other guy. After that I just said hell with it, and went and sat next to him and started a conversation. We talked all night. I was tired, and could not get home because the bridge was gone. He did not know me yet gave me the keys to his place and said I could stay there the night, and he went to work. he did not know if I was a robber,lol just gave me the keys,lol I stayed there, and left him a note with my number.
He called me a week later and the rest was history.
He told me later it took him all week to get the nerve to call me,lol
Oxymorons must be attractive then, you will have no problems...someone will see through that mysterious side and notice your compassion.
Originally posted by Scurvy
reply to post by sc2099
I doubt there are many out there to begin with. I've been told I'm an intimidating person at first glance, kind of the "tall, dark, and mysterious" sort of deal. I'm a spiritual enthusiast and I follow world politics. I party and I meditate. I have a disgusting sense of humor and I did a lot of work with people with mental disabilities. I'm very compassionate and I love death metal.
I'm an oxymoron
Originally posted by Demandredwhat is it about a toilet seat being up that upsets women so much, if we have to lift it how hard is it to flip it down?