It seems to be human nature, when something has gone terribly wrong, to find someone to blame, to figure out who is at fault. What we may not realize
is that it isn't always possible - or necessary - to figure out who's fault it was. I can guess, from the statement that grandfather put the baby in
the swing and then left the house, that either or both parents may have been giving Zane as much - or as little - care and attention as they received
as children. We can probably never know for sure if the parents loved this little boy with all their hearts and were doing the best they knew - or
not.
Ultimately what we have is the death of a baby, a death that could so easily have been prevented. Perhaps we are more interested in this case because
of the grisly nature of the death, but in reality Zane probably suffered no more than other children who have baked to death in hot cars, been shaken
to death by an angry parent, steamed in a too-hot bath, or many other ways. Zane's case is one example of a larger problem - child neglect and abuse.
There is no longer anything we can do for Zane. Both he and the puppy are out of our hands. Perhaps some of you, like me, feel helpless and frustrated
that we could do nothing to save a precious child. I do, however, know how I can help prevent the next incident, and I am going to donate in Zane's
memory to the
Parent Child Center of Tulsa, an agency whose entire mission is to prevent child abuse and
neglect through educating and training parents, educating the public, and advocacy of children. I have personal experience with PCCT and I know they
do great work. And with that, I must let Zane, and the unnamed puppy, go in peace from my troubled mind.