posted on Jul, 26 2008 @ 08:30 PM
Originally posted by Frankidealist35
If you say hello in the right way when you meet someone new they'll feel at ease. If you don't say hello to someone at all they might not even talk
Last year, I read the book "The Games People Play". It presented an interesting way of looking at social interactions that I think will help you a
It presented social interaction as a tally system. Example:
Joe says "hi" to Steve. (Joe gets a point. Joe has more points than Steve. Steve needs to say something back.)
Steve says, "Hi!" (+1 point) and "How are you?" (+2 points)
(Joe: 1 Steve: 3)
Joe says, "I'm doing okay." (+1 point) "Hey, I'm in a hurry so I have to go." (+1 point) "Bye!" (+1 point)
(Joe: 4 Steve: 3)
Joe has more points than Steve at the end of the conversation. This will make Steve more likely to interact with Joe later. The difference at the
end is only 1 point so it's no big deal that the score is uneven...kinda like a social IOU.
Now, if Steve said hi (+1 point) and Joe chose to ignore him (-1 point), the score would be 1 and -1, a 2 point difference. Larger differences can
lead to social tension.
And the whole thing that set the game in motion was the word "hi".
I'm not sure that this helps any, but I thought it might be worth putting out there.