posted on Jul, 20 2008 @ 02:07 AM
reply to post by lovepens1
Some posters initially seem to have a 'Wedding Crashers' mentality. They think they are being funny or insightful or are exposing hypocrisy by
running around and making fun of all the 'stuffed shirts'.
This kind of behavior can seen as immature and not a positive contribution by some.
As these posters get away with some things, soon they start to escalate and go even further, adopting a 'class clown' reputation.
Now, this is funny in Jr High School, but it quickly becomes tiresome and counterproductive on a forum where the intent is to have intelligent and
So you might ask yourself before you hit the 'post reply' button, 'is this the kind of post where later I'll be ashamed of saying (and when
warned, delete it), or am I being snarky or irreverent or trolling?' If so, just save that post to your hard drive, but don't post it. The next day
look at it and ask 'do I still want to post this comment'.
That way you can release some hostility or humor or even irreverence by typing it out, but instead of immediately posting it, you give yourself some
'breathing room' and can see if it's really as funny as you thought it was when you're not caught up in the action.
Almost everyone here has had to learn to resist the temptation to say 'oh my gawd, this is so idiotic'. You just have to realize that blurting this
out is not a positive contribution and it will end up getting you warned.
But you do learn to be a little different here than you'd be on a forum where everyone rants and cat calls everyone else, and eventually you'll come
to appreciate that. In the process, maybe your posting style will change and you'll be proud of every post you make and will not feel the need to be
dramatic or sarcastic. It's a way of coping which can help a person grow in real life, too.
Hope this helps!
[edit on 20-7-2008 by Badge01]