Society forces me to be around so many people all the time... at school... or when I would go to work at a job I would have to be around other people. I am around so many people that I will never get to know in public places. People that I won't ever get to see again. And then in school and classes there will only be some people that I will make friends with. Why must I be forced to be around other people all the time? It's like I can't ever be 100% alone. What if I want to be alone? Why won't society allow me to ever have a day by myself?

I know that people don't like living isolation. I just don't like how it's like we're forced to be around other people, or, we won't be successful.

I'm not going to commit suicide because I'm not depressed and I'm happy with my life... and I like my life and the people in it. That's not what I dislike. But my problem lies within the fact that the our society forces us to be around other people.

I guess that I'm just not much of a people person. I don't see what the thrill in talking to so many people and getting to know everyone is. I don't mind having the friends that I have... but... it's just that I find dealing with so many people each day kind of stressful.

How do people manage to function like this? Meeting other people all the time? And why does society pin me so I have to know the right people and I have to know people if I want to change things?

It's like either I'll be know people and be successful or I could very well do the opposite which would be to live alone and live an unhappy life.

I just like having quiet time with myself. Is that too much to ask for?

Go check into a Bed & Breakfast in Maine for a week,
without a tv or a phone,
then tell me how it feels!

Who knows, you may love it.

[edit on 17-7-2008 by dgtempe]

you and I think alot alike my friend. I can't stand being around people either. Silence is golden and not enough people appreciate it, IMO.

I don't think there is anything wrong with that at all. I tend to find a majority of people annoying. However, I believe when anyone is super successful, fame or money wise, this cannot be accomplished without knowing alot of people.

Originally posted by Mad_Hatter
you and I think alot alike my friend. I can't stand being around people either. Silence is golden and not enough people appreciate it, IMO.

I don't think there is anything wrong with that at all. I tend to find a majority of people annoying. However, I believe when anyone is super successful, fame or money wise, this cannot be accomplished without knowing alot of people.

mad hatter i got some bad news.

me and you finally agree on some thing. the world is gonna end..

to the op:

i hate people too. this is why i have chosen to live alone, in a large house. yeah i got friends and i work. but i rarely let anyone come to my house. maybe the old lady every once and a while and a friend or two a month. when i feel like seeing people i got to work or one of their houses. dont worry man you are not alone, which i guess is kinda oppisite of what you want.. whoops sorry...

I think if you find it utterly impossible to live like a hermit then you're just not trying hard enough, OP. Go squat on some public land and live like a wild man. Or work long enough to buy your own land and live like a wild man. It seems to be one of the cheaper, and thus easier dreams to achieve in this world.

If you find yourself forced into social situations by this society, exit society.

nope....... quit blaming society, govt's, or anything/one for where you are in life. ultimately, you could make the sacrifices to be on your own.

i enjoy peace from others for the most part, but i sacrifice that peace at times bc i understand that forming bonds can be necessary at times for the goals that i aim to achieve

Because you're part of society and benefit from it.

If you don't like it, there's a lot of wilderness where you can be alone. Bye.

Its strange that the 3 people here who say they don't like being around people are all frequent posters on a site that involves communicating with thousands.

Having said that, I don't like most people. But I like some, so I love small congregations with those people.

I'm not saying I hate society. I'm saying that I should be allowed to exist within society, play my role, and chose when I want to interact with other people and when I don't. It's just that it seems that I usually cannot chose when I interact with other people.

And yes I did say that I wanted to be alone, but, not all the time. I do like being around other people. But I find it annoying how that if I want to be successful I will have to be around other people a lot.

I agree with the OP. We anti-socials need a place where we can kick-it, where we get in free and you gotta be a G

It sounds to me that you have a job where you MUST interact daily with many people (like maybe retail sales?) and you go to school where lots of other students are supposed to interact with each other. You could just decide, while at school, to become a loner...thus considered anti-social...but what the heck, why not? The people you associate with in life, I like to call "plug-ins". These are the people that we associate with at work or school, that are really just there long enough know for a little while, then we unplug from them....many of these people, after leaving school or changing jobs, we never see or hear from again...so you've plugged into them for awhile, then unplug. Most people in our lives are plug-ins (except family...who you're kinda stuck with). So become a loner, and change jobs where you don't have to be with or see other people...and I think you might be happy!

I know that people don't like living isolation. I just don't like how it's like we're forced to be around other people, or, we won't be successful.

Personally, I wouldn't mind living in aworld that was completely abandoned. I can deal well without people and I've found it much easier to do so when I stay away from them. I'm a recluse of sorts and I do stupid things to maintain it that way, and I do it without even thinking now too... Like, for example, I'll lie to people I don't even know just to get out of talking to them, or even if it will cost me a great opportunity - I won't call someone. I just can't handle communicating with people, especially those I don't know. I have a fear that they're always judgemental of me and it drives me crazy so I tend to try and avoid people as much as I can.

Originally posted by Frankidealist35
I'm saying that I should be allowed to exist within society, play my role, and chose when I want to interact with other people and when I don't.

And I want to get paid, but not go to work.

Oh, wait, what's that? The fundamental benefits and protections of society require the individual to exist within that society?
Oh. Darn.