reply to post by JPhish
Think about it with open hart (perhaps you have NOT experienced love - then it would be explainable why you argue with me) this an extraordinary claim
- you can Love and Fear simultaneously.
If there is a smallest bit of Fear in you hart Love is replaced with admiration, respect...
How LOVE works is - it is demanding equality - both individuals are seeing each other at a same level of senses - love can not be one way (just a side
note - that is what I call blind-foolness

or selfish love). Love simply does not exist when someone sees him/herself higher or lower then the other
individual/party.
Fear brings in this disbalance in Love relationships and replaces/pushes love out leaving all the rest but love - faith, respect, amazement, obedience
and so on.
Love and Fear can not coexist.
Your example with grandfather is a good example:
- you possibly could not have same level relationships because he saw/sees you through feelings of proud, admiration and being strict with you when
you do something foolish (thats why you feared him) - his "love" (it is not love obviously, but people call it love regardless) is looking down on
you
- your grandfather could not have same level relationships with you because you saw him through feelings of respect, amazement, trust and fear (if you
do something "wrong"). You are/were looking up on him.
Love can be called LOVE only when unforced equality is observable and felt by both(all) parties.
Regards
[edit on 17-7-2008 by FIFIGI]