posted on Sep, 17 2008 @ 10:23 PM
i didn't read all of the posts as many are just plain hateful...
i can understand why because i have a baby girl myself and i would hate for someone to do this to her...
now, like brother bodrul said, i wont go into all the details of the marriage to aa'ishah, because at the end of the day this is very different...
for starters the girl didn't like the man to begin with and said he was old and ugly, yet with aa'ishah she has even expressed herself how she loved
the prophet and referred to him as "her yusuf" - this is because prophet yusuf/joseph, peace be upon him, was the most handsome of all the prophets,
and she referred to muhammad as her yusuf...
this daughter shouldn't have been married if she didn't want to be - she said she was scared to leave, found him ugly etc - now due to this she
shouldn't have been married to him in the first place (setting age asid if she was pubescent and mature she is not viewed as a child
now, secondly the prophet was aa'ishah's father's best friend and he trusted him immensely, especially as one of the first followers of islaam who
aknowledged him as a prophet, thus a man of this status to her father is liable not to abuse his daughter...
in this situation, this girls father was made a promise that he didn't keep, so maybe thy hardly knew eachother to begin with?
islaam has a strong brotherhood and due to this many muslims will trust the word of another muslim, no questions asked ("hey if he promised me this
and he fears Allaah he will keep to the promise or tell me if he believes he cannot do it...")
now, due to the fact that as a muslim i do understand why the father trusted this man, but untill she was 20??? surely that would have set alarm bells
off in his head because a husband and wife have full right to intimacy when she is pubescent and mature... so it was a bit of a fals promise to begin
with that i would never have believed! (come on, how many 13 or 14 year old girls sleep around with boys in these countries???)
i am saddened that the guy could do this to her, even more saddened that she was married off even though she didn't want to be (because we have been
told that the virgin MUST have permission sought before marriage) and thus any marrital promise that takes place before puberty, the girl is
untouchable to the man untill she is pubescent and has again declared whether she wishes to be married to him or not (and usually an unpubescent child
is kept WITH the family untill puberty and her permission sought, she is not sent off to live with the man - just as aa'ishah lived with her father
and mother untill she was mature and conscented to marriage... let us not forget she was a SCHOLAR of islaam before the age of 12, so she is
incomparable to the many girls of that age today!)
anyway, there is my feedback on the issue - all i have to say is it is bad judgement of the parents to have married her when she didn't want to, and
it is awful of the man she was married to, to beat and rape her...
i pray that they repent sincerely for their sins and return to the truth of islaam and don't make the same mistakes again, aameen