Is pornography better than sex?

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posted on Jul, 14 2008 @ 02:54 PM
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I'm not the kind of person who gets excited about celebrity gossip, but all of those unavoidable news reports about supermodel Chrstie Brinkley's divorce got me thinking. Especially the bit about how her husband spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on Internet pornography. I'll elaborate below, but my basic thesis is that using pornography by yourself is quite often preferable to actual sex with a partner, especially if the partner is someone you've already slept with on a regular basis. Before I delve too far into this, I should point out that most of this does not apply to sex with a good prostitute, although the monetary cost can be prohibitive.

First of all, sex is hardly ever as good as you hope it will be going in. With pornography, there are lower expectations. The end result is pretty much the same, but our perception is obviously going to be much different and this favors the less highly built-up activity.

Secondly, as this Brinkley story shows (in addition to the countless similar stories of people who lose their attraction to very attractive people once they've bedded them a couple of times), no matter how much of a knockout your partner may be, you'll eventually grow tired of her charms and start looking for the next one. It's basic genetics. Human beings - like most animals - are wired to spread their seed to as many targets as possible in order to guarantee a higher likelihood of passing their genes down. Of course, nowadays most sex is not intended to conceive children, but the genetic tendancies are still there.

In addition, sex with a partner limits the extent of your pleasures, to varying degrees. With pornography, you can look at anything that happens to arouse you - from mild fetishes to the completely outrageous. On a related note, if you're worried about trying to please another person at the same time, it's going to be mediocre for both parties. This is another reason I stated that sex with prostitutes is exempt from my theory. You can do pretty much anything you can imagine to a prostitute if you have enough money. Just ask Elliot Spitzser.

Another reason porn beats sex is that it takes less work and (in most cases) less money and you can get as much of it as your body can handle - not somebody else's. There's no hassle of having to chat strangers up at the bar or the reverse problem of having to figure out how to get said person out of your house when you're done with them, or worrying about getting stalked or screwed over in divorce court once you break a relationship off. Again, I endorse prostitutes. I believe it was Charlie Sheen who wisely stated that, "You don't pay prostitutes to have sex with you.... You pay them to leave once they're done!"



And with all that said, who knows your body better than yourself? Do you want some other person down there fooling around with your business equipment when you've been handling things just fine since your youth?

To wrap things up, I want to make sure you are able to separate "sex" from "relationships". I know the fellas out there are completely with me here, but a lot of you women are thinking, "This is absurd! If I don't have sex I can't have a relationship, and then I can't get married and have kids! And I don't need porn to get off anyway!"

Calm down, ladies. Just because you have sex with your boyfriend or husband every once in a while doesn't mean you can't have alone time every day to make sure it's done right. And I know most of you don't watch porn, but just know this - your boyfriends and husbands still do, and that's not a bad thing. It's natural.


[edit on 14-7-2008 by EverythingYouDespise]




posted on Jul, 14 2008 @ 03:04 PM
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Right on brother!
I think you hit the nail on the head with that post.



posted on Jul, 14 2008 @ 03:18 PM
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Maybe you need to stop watching it. It seems you have become addicted to it, and therefore you have gotten used to unreal views of sex, and when you come to real sex, you don't know what to do, thus makes you feel like porn is better lol.

In my opinion porn doesn't come close to getting close to a woman, getting connected, getting to know her as a person, feeling a womans touch etc. Real life is better.
I've seen your type of views before, usually it's from people who watch too much porn.

Not to be annoying but I have to bring up what you said in the other thread. I'm sorry but I think it's important to get an idea of maybe 'why' you like porn better.


Originally posted by EverythingYouDespise
Personally, I find most women to be no good for anything besides sex. They are bossy, self-obsessed, mean, argumentative and obsessed with marriage and/or childbirth. Usually, the younger they are, the more likely it is that these negative traits haven't become a part of their personalities yet. And if you're significantly older than they are, they tend to show you respect and heed your wishes.

Also, older women are less attractive than their younger counterparts. A lot of them are overweight, too. Perhaps this also explains why some guys like them. If one has low self-esteem, it's easier to feel comfortable with someone who is less attractive than yourself.

The only drawbacks to the young girls are that they're idiots and you can't hold a conversation with them, but who really wants to talk to a female anyway? At least the young ones, you tell them to shut up and they obey.


With that kind of view on women, which I find to be very offensive and full of generalizations, I think I can understand "why" you like porn better. Because you don't have to get close to a real woman!
And from those animal comments, I think I can assume that you have problems with feeling emotions and getting close to people or animals.

So with porn you don't have to get close to anyone, you don't have to see them as a person, women are just objects to you, and porn is the perfect world that gives you what you want without having to get emotionally attached.

Now I am not trying to be offensive, it's just from your posts I can see you have issues with certain things like getting close to things.

And I actually think you will agree with my conclusion.

[edit on 14-7-2008 by _Phoenix_]



posted on Jul, 14 2008 @ 03:30 PM
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Haha, I've gotta say I wasn't expecting a well-thought out post. It was a good read though, some food for thought.

I am pretty big fan of both.. however....

Sex is better simply because of the organic and improvisational aspect of it. To be honest, I will never be able to surprise myself, but my girl might still have some tricks up her sleeve.

Actually, given that, I think even bad sex is better than pornography, although there is a time and a place for both.



posted on Jul, 14 2008 @ 03:39 PM
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You really don't love many things in life but yourself do you?
For the record, there are young teenagers who visit this site too.



posted on Jul, 14 2008 @ 03:51 PM
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isnt it the same thing? if not i should probably move into my moms basement and collect star wars figures. i guess id still own alot more socks too.



posted on Jul, 14 2008 @ 04:05 PM
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Better make sure you have a four poster bed, for all those notches..

*ROLLING ON FLOOR LAUGHING HYSTERICALLY*



posted on Jul, 14 2008 @ 04:39 PM
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Originally posted by AccessDenied
reply to post by EverythingYouDespise
 


You really don't love many things in life but yourself do you?
For the record, there are young teenagers who visit this site too.


1. I love plenty of things. It just so happens that none of them are alilve but me. :p

2. I tried to be as tactful as I could with the phrasing of this post, so as not to include offensive language. If you feel that some of the content is inappropriate for a relationships forum, please let me know what that content is so that I can review whether it ought to be modified. Thanks!



posted on Jul, 14 2008 @ 07:29 PM
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Anybody know of any good Star Wars porn?



posted on Jul, 15 2008 @ 10:56 AM
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Originally posted by AccessDenied
reply to post by EverythingYouDespise
 


You really don't love many things in life but yourself do you?
For the record, there are young teenagers who visit this site too.



For the record, the 'young teenagers' who are visiting this site have the internet. They have access to their own forms of pornography. A thread that discusses and implies one over the other (sex vs pornography) is not grotesque in nature.

If you cannot discuss all matters of life, and consider one thing taboo over the other, then you'll never get anywhere.

That being said:


I believe that pornography enhances sex.

Bare with me

Pornography has been around for centuries. You have things like the kama sutra that teach you how to enhance the sexual pleasures you would obtain from physical sex with a partner.

Today's pornography bares no boundaries, however, and i believe some of it goes too far (bestiality, S&M, etc) the types of pornography that dwell on darker characteristics of deviant minded people. (Just my opinion)

Think of the first time you had sex.
If you're like most people - you had NO idea what you were doing, and if you're a guy - you probably thought to yourself at the time (and even perhaps now) that your partner didnt know any better about you.

Wrong.


But you watch some "porno" and learn a thing or two, and suddenly you start to enjoy it even more, because you have some direction....

but then again - the problem with that is it becomes a standard by which many men are going to base their performance or their "stature"

Saying "this is an inappropriate discussion!!!!
"

is ONLY going to make things worse.

Regardless:

Porno derives from sex.
Therefore i believe it accentuates to a certain degree, as long as its kept in maintained constraints....which a lot of 'young teenagers' these days choose to ignore.

Which gives us yet another reason to discuss these types of things in a mature atmosphere.

Education is the only way to get across to those who would see a porn and base all of their knowledge of sexual relations on that flick.



...now that im done ranting.



S&F for this post. I appreciate the tone of which it was carried out.

[edit on 7/15/2008 by Andrew E. Wiggin]

[edit on 7/15/2008 by Andrew E. Wiggin]



posted on Jul, 15 2008 @ 12:51 PM
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reply to post by MrdDstrbr
 


i believe that would be jedi miller.



posted on Jul, 15 2008 @ 12:51 PM
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reply to post by Andrew E. Wiggin
 


your signature is DISGUSTING.



posted on Jul, 15 2008 @ 12:55 PM
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reply to post by LordInfamous
 


Lordinfamous

you can't seriously think i believe that?

I post it as a reference to the utter stupidity of Rush Limbaugh. Come on now.



posted on Jul, 15 2008 @ 01:00 PM
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oh i was sure you don't adovcate that
i was just speaking my mind about it. that's all.


[edit on 15-7-2008 by LordInfamous]



posted on Jul, 15 2008 @ 01:19 PM
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The only reason I watch that stuff is because I find it so damn funny.

But I'd take the real thing over a movie anyday.



posted on Jul, 15 2008 @ 01:29 PM
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Seriously, how many women have you had contact with? I feel that you don't have a realistic view on women and relationships in general. First of all, many women are interested in pornography just as much as men are. Also if all you are interested in is your own pleasure then you are missing out on many good things about a relationship. Believe it or not, there are many people who actually get off on their partners pleasure more than they do their own.

I agree with phoenix that you seem to be addicted to porn to the point where you are incapacitated to enjoy the real things in real sex.

Also regarding Phoenix's quote from you, you also fail to understand that different people are attracted to different things and what you find ugly, another might find beautiful. It isn't because of low self-esteem, it is because everybody is attracted to something different. Plain and simple.



posted on Jul, 15 2008 @ 01:53 PM
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Originally posted by MrdDstrbr
Anybody know of any good Star Wars porn?


'EverythingYouDespise' does. LOL.



posted on Jul, 15 2008 @ 06:08 PM
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reply to post by Aquarius18Rising
 


ughhh i can just imagine the types of women you've had sex with.




posted on Jul, 15 2008 @ 06:15 PM
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Originally posted by hikix
reply to post by Aquarius18Rising
 


ughhh i can just imagine the types of women you've had sex with.



I from L.A. So usually hot Latin women, sometimes white, never had an asian, even though I want too. I'm in A.T.L. right now. So now I'm taking the celibate approach because believe me I don't want these chics! So it's porn now.



posted on Jul, 15 2008 @ 06:15 PM
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Mod Edit - removed quoted material.

[edit on 15-7-2008 by Aquarius18Rising]

[edit on 15-7-2008 by Aquarius18Rising]
Took me a full minute to pick my jaw up after reading your post.
Just freakin wow.
So um..enjoy yourself.
Literally.
Geez.

[edit on 16-7-2008 by elevatedone]





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