Originally posted by LostNemesis It is a REALLY sick world when it takes "two to tango", yet one is given the power to make the choice to screw the other one over for life.

I do not think it is fair to vilify females. Women very often get the bad end of the deal.

And yes it DOES take two to tango. I am always amazed at how many men, especially after a couple of drinks, don’t even THINK about the fact that sex can lead to offspring. They are so used to thinking “she will take care of it”. Lets face it most women would NOT trust a guy that said “don’t worry about it honey, I can’t get you pregnant” unless they knew for a fact the guy was fixed.

Originally posted by SpartanKingLeonidas
I remember the last time she worked where I work, she went through asking everyone in the company.

I was right.

That's sad.

Someone needs to get her to think about why she wants to have a child. I hope every guy turns her down. But she needs help.

As others have said, it would be a good idea not to do such a thing. There was a news article a few months back about a man who had sex with a lifelong lesbian friend who asked him for his help in having a child. They had all sorts of contracts that he would not be financially responsible or have any type of father relationship with the child because the woman wanted to raise the baby alone with her girlfriend. However, all the legal protection in the world did not matter. Once the child hit college, the woman broke up with her long-term girlfriend and sued the pants off of the man for back child support. It was pretty messy to say the least.

I also have to question a man who would be willing to do such a thing as the original post suggests even if there was no child support or legal troubles involved. Knowing you have a child out there somewhere that isn't a part of your life would be rough if you have any heart at all. And even if you were involved in the child's life, it would still feel like a back seat position. Not something I would recommend.

Two words, four syllables: POOPY DIAPERS!

That in itself is the scourge of the universe. Trust me, I know firsthand.

Jokes aside, I believe you have what we call in the pseudo-scientific field as: certifiably insane. Plus, like Dan said, she can give you all these promises till the cows come home. But, in the end, you'll be stuck with the bill down the road.

Originally posted by SpartanKingLeonidas
Yeah, I might have been impressed somewhere in there, if I was that gullible, as well as if she was actually wanting strong breeding stock or something, but I remember the last time she worked where I work, she went through asking everyone in the company.

LOL you should not have said that. Some of us were thinking “wow, this guy could be really impressive and that’s why she wants his baby so bad”. But not if she asked everyone in the company. : )

Originally posted by Sonya610

Originally posted by SpartanKingLeonidas
Yeah, I might have been impressed somewhere in there, if I was that gullible, as well as if she was actually wanting strong breeding stock or something, but I remember the last time she worked where I work, she went through asking everyone in the company.

LOL you should not have said that. Some of us were thinking “wow, this guy could be really impressive and that’s why she wants his baby so bad”. But not if she asked everyone in the company. : )

Well, that isn't something I'm all that concerned about here, it's just an interesting discussion. I could care less if I impressed anyone or not. I'm happy I made you laugh thought, even if it was at My expense, it's a good thing.

having kids is stupid in my opinion. I would be a sperm donor though, some person on the radio was telling everyone how he is gonna create the master race of humanoids.

[edit on 13-7-2008 by Maybach Hanson]

having kids is a buzz killer. this is what i dont understand about women is they want to have kids and they sit there and look like some deformo and its like what is wrong with these people

[edit on 13-7-2008 by Maybach Hanson]

I would just flat out recommend that she attends a family gathering, and hit on a cousin or uncle.



Another thing? Have you said a flat NO?? Does she get mixed messages from you? I know you are clear here, but in person, are you getting thru?

[edit on 13-7-2008 by dgtempe]

Originally posted by dgtempe
I would just flat out recommend that she attends a family gathering, and hit on a cousin or uncle.



Another thing? Have you said a flat NO?? Does she get mixed messages from you? I know you are clear here, but in person, are you getting thru?

[edit on 13-7-2008 by dgtempe]

I told her no, flatly.

She asked why not, I stated I don't want to be a father.

She stated there was no financial obligations, I still said no.

She then asked why I do not want to be a sperm donor, I stated that if I have a child, I want to be there for the child in all ways, as I come from a broken home and understand fully not having My father there, and having a step-father instead when I wanted it the other way around. I have since changed that view altogether as the father was more interested in laying in the bottom of an alcohol bottle than being a part of his family. He was, is, and always will be a complete stranger to Me.

She asked jokingly if that meant I wanted to move in, I said a flat no.

She offered that I could be there in all ways for the child, I still stated no.

I her every offer, and she still kept on pushing.

I also stated I already have 2 Cub Scout Packs, and a Boy Scout Troop, a bunch of young men who look up to Me in all ways, I do not need nor want My own child.

No mixed signals, whatsoever.

She tried the coy batting her eyelashes bit to warm up the horny single man as well, it just doesn't come across that well from a woman like her, she'd make a great Drill Sergeant in the Military before a mother.

I don't play baloney games when it comes to sex, either you're interested, or not.

I can do "friends with benefits" it just is not that big a deal to Me, I even have had many offers recently before this woman, but due to it being co-workers to the connections that would be influenced because of it, I said no way.

I waited until I was 20/21 to have sex the very first time, so turning down sex is not a big deal for Me, at all.

[edit on 13-7-2008 by SpartanKingLeonidas]