posted on Jul, 13 2008 @ 01:52 AM
reply to post by Perfectenemy05
You dont need to tell your current girlfriend anything as nothing happened. You dont owe your girlfriend or your ex any explaination. Just instruct
your current girlfriend to lock the doors when she leaves. This will clue you in as to whether she has an attention span and can follow simple
instructions. Very important if you are going to keep her around.
You need secure women in your life..not insecure...this is why you dont need to explain to any of them. Nothing happened ...
Your ex is insecure for coming over like that ...you dont need to be party to transfering this insecurity to your present girlfriend. Got it??
Also if your ex has a key to your house ...or apartment...change the locks. You should already have done this. This is your restraining order!!
Be assertive in this and do so with confidence...not wimpy and worrying about being fair to any of them ...this is your home..not theirs. You need to
be fair to yourself and your home before you worry about them. This is called "confidence." It is also called how to lead..not follow.
Other posters are correct..your ex should have called..not just come trotting in. I keep a .45 Automatic by my bedside. The woman I see knows to call
and link up before coming over..not just barge right on in. Same with me going over her place. Sounds like your ex is having second thoughts about her
territory....dont let it bother you. Just organize your affairs to a much better standard and change those locks.
[edit on 13-7-2008 by orangetom1999]