reply to post by jamiros
I have a child and he is my heart and soul.
His little giggles of laughter can make the world turn for me, and I will do anything in the world for it.
Life before him just kind of looks pointless now.
These studies are just always to be taken with a grain of salt.
They just say emotional well being. They don't say what kind of emotional well being.
There is a massive grey area here, and these statements are way too vague.
Life with children is hard. And the less emotional well being may come in to play with worry, money, and loss of self.
When you have a child, everything looks very different, and dangerous. And yes, there are times where you just want to lie there and watch tv adn not
have a care in the world, but you have a responsibility 24/7.
You have so much love wrapped up in a little human being, that you will make sure it stays there.
There is guilt and worry constantly. Are you doing the right thing? Are they healthy? ARe you going to be able to afford braces and college?
So that is going to take happy parent down a few notches.
parentless people are happy because they have more money, are free to do what they want, and don't have the worry.
So why yes, the emotional well being of both sides may not be different, it is for different reasons.
The real point here is that I have met very few parents, if any, that would ever go back and not have kids.
Their worst fears are anything happening to their children.
So I think this study is mis-leading in implying that children don't make you happy, it just comes bundled with its own issues.
I can personally vouch that life is not worth living without my son. They keep you young, they keep you inspired, they keep you on your toes, most
importantly, they keep you in love.