posted on Jun, 30 2008 @ 06:15 PM
2 weeks ago, my boyfriend walked in the door after Church with a serious look on his face and told me, "we have to talk."
So, I asked him what was wrong, and pulled up a chair.
He's not very communicative about much, pretty much keeping his thoughts to himself, so I figured this must either be very important, or very
He blurts out - "This isn't working, and I want you to leave."
Ok, so, things have been a little on the strange side since he had open heart surgery in March. He has been extra quiet since then, and I chalked it
up to him contemplating life with his nearly coming to and end. He's a lot older than I am, old enough to be my father.
Since he's been home, he has spent a lot more time with his kids. He's gone on a fishing trip, and has attended every little league baseball game
that both of his grandsons particpipated in. He also went on an overnight trip with his church group to Arkansas to see a play. Or, so I thought.
Just to backtrack a little, to when he was in the hospital. It turns out that the very day he was dishcarged, the husband of his ex-wife keeled over
due to a massive heart attack and died. She married this fellow after cheating on Sam (my boyfriend)
It seems Mr. Sam has been busy wiht the ex-wife for a couple of months since her husband died, and even before that. I think the guy died of a heart
attack after finding out that she was cheating on him with my boyfreind! (her ex-husband)
Well, he hasn't mentioned my leaving since the first day he asked me to. I'm not in a hurry, seeing as how I gave up my home to live with the guy,
and it will take a lot of planning for me to leave.
Here is the thing. I am really not upset about any of this. I'm mad that he didn't tell me the truth, but I can understand how he would like to be
with the ex-wife now that her new husgand is gone. They have a large family together, 5 kids, and a dozen or so grandchildren.
He has been going out nearly every night with her since he broke this news to me, and it just doesn't seem to be bothering me.
Last night, I even ironed a shirt for him to wear on his "date" with the ex-wife! Whenever he does stay home for an evening, I am still cooking
when he has asked me to. I am still cleaning and taking care of the yard, and all the other domestic chores I normally do. Now, don't get the wrong
idea here..... I am sleeping in another bedroom!
I have come to the conclusion about this situation.
1) I want to see him happy
2) After all the grief and money he lost in the divorce from this woman, if he wants to deal with her all over again, then that will be his
Anybody else ever been in a situation like this before, and if so, how did you handle it?
Am I being too nice?