Well I'm Australian, not American, but I'm going to respond anyway...
Middle-easterners are no different to any other race in the world in that most people just want to get on with life, feed their family, enjoy life for
what it is, and not get sucked into "big issues". I've spent some time in the Middle-East, and the majority of people I met were fantastic. In
fact, the hospitality offered was significantly better than a middle-easterner can expect if they visited the west. In fact I'd go so far as to say
better than what a westerner would get if they visited another western country.
There are issues. I don't agree with radical interpretations of the Koran, but then again I don't agree with radical interpretations of the Bible
either. Also, while 9/11 was a terrible thing, let's not forget that Timothy McVeigh was responsible for the Oklahoma bombing. So you really can't
generalise and hate an entire race of people based on the action of a few, otherwise you'll have to do the same for your own people.
One final thought. Just because a person is middle-eastern doen't mean they are muslim. Heck, even Iran has a (albeit small) percentage of the
population that is jewish, and more who are christian. Same in Iraq. Even some of Saddam's ministry were Christian. You really do seem to be
generalising. It is tough to see past the exterior, and you aren't alone. I probably wouldn't go back to Iraq anytime soon, but would have no
problems going to other parts of the middle-east. We're all less different than we think.