posted on Jul, 26 2008 @ 04:48 AM
Well Bombeni, I know exactly what its like to be abused. My abuse though was given to me by my parents. So, to a sense I know what you went through.
Now, your brother was the brother from hell and I'm sorry you had to go through that. Even though your brother did all that to you, I think you
should forgive him and move on. He might be denying it cause he doesn't want his wife to know how horrible he was to you and your sisters. But
anyways about the appology thing, you need to forgive him before you never get the chance to again. I know that it feels as if there is no
relationship and that might be true, but what if he died right this second? I mean then you would have never had that relationship, nor got to the
bottom of why he did that stuff to you guys. Forgive him and sit down with him or call him and just talk to him and tell him all of what you told us.
Refresh his memory of everything that happened. Explain it all to him. I know its hard to forgive someone for abusing you, but in the long run you
need to do it. He might have changed now that you all are older and he deserves a chance to make it up to all of you for the hell that he caused you.
I know that I'm only 18 and that maybe I sound really stupid and neive about how I'm saying this, but there really is a point. I mean, my father
passed away, and even though he use to beat me like crazy, I wish I got the chance to forgive him, and talk to him about why he did that. I know that
its going to be hard to forgive your brother for that, but you need to. For your sake, his, and your families. I mean, if you don't forgive him you
also don't give him the chance to appologize or make things right. Anyways, thats my opinion and advice, do with it what you will.