Now, this is probably going to seem like some harsh advice, but its the advice I seriously live by, and its the advice I give out to my friends who go
thru breakups and relationship issues.
Look at all the Good stuff: Its good right? Its fun. Its Great. Its awesome. You're walking on Sunshine. Its Perfect!
- This stuff is awesome, this is the stuff that makes relationships worth all the hard work, the effort, the endless talks about random stuff that
matters to both of you, this is the icing on the cake.
Look at the Crap: She's reclusive, and She's threatening to break up with you to straighten you out (there are problems with this statement for two
- Why is she reclusive? Is it because she doesn't trust you? Is it because she deals with problems better on her own? Does she not want you to see
her at her most vulnerable states? Any of these are possible.
- I absolutely DESPISE when someone says their signifigant other has threatened to break up with them.
1.) A breakup isn't a discussion. A breakup isn't up for voting. A breakup isn't a Threat. A Break up is a FInal Move. A breakup is the end. A
break up is exactly that - A Break up. So if she's busy threatening to break up with you, then she should do it already. Don't threaten to, thats
mean. Thats harsh. As IF you need to be hurt like that, by someone you know and Love.
2.) If she's threatening with a breakup, then chances are she is thinking about it. She's saying it because she wants to. OR. She's saying it to
hurt you. Either way, its a bad situation.
*Another way to look at it is: Do you want to spend another year or two, dealing with this kind of crap? Do you want to be wondering whats wrong with
her? Do you want to be wondering if she's going to break up with you? No. You dont right? You don't want to go thru this again, and she won't
change. She will keep doing these things. If you don't have it in you to put another year in, then don't test the waters any further. Do you want to
spend the rest of your life with someone who makes you feel this way? If the answer is no, then you have your answer.
Cut your Losses. Walk Away. You don't need to waste your time wondering what she is going to threaten you with next. You are too good to be wasting
your time with someone who threatens to break up with you and won't let you in. You deserve Better.
Look at the Current Situation: She has a boyfriend. If she wanted to make it work with you, she would break up with her boyfriend. Why should you
play second fiddle to someone else? Someone who is also into the same girl you are? You shouldn't, you can go out there and find your own girl, you
don't need to be in love with someone else's. There is a girl out there just waiting for you. Neither of you know it yet, but she's there. Just
give it time. Its all about time.
I know this sounds hard, and it is. Its not easy to forget someone who is constantly on your mind - trust me. I've been there. But the more time
you waste, the more energy you wasted being hung up on her, is time your taking away from your Future Wonderful Girlfriend.
I hope everything works out okay for you.