posted on Dec, 13 2008 @ 02:13 PM
reply to post by orange-light
Well, my friend had been in the royal ballet, and had to give it up because of shin splints - but he was clever and bought property when he was making
So he now has flats in london that he rents out (in business with another friend), which obviously gives him an income, even after the mortgages are
paid - so in that sense he is not in the traditional "house husband" role.
Some people have a problem with what he does, but these are generally people who are "macho" - or think they are.
IMO he is a good man, because he provides (in the traditional male sense) but is also comfortable enough in his masculinity that he supports his wifes
career, and is willing to be at home instead of being out having a career of his own.
The traditional male role has become blurred over the last few decades, but there is still a stigma attached when a man is a "house-husband" and I
think that this is a reflection of the way people perceive traditional rolesin a relationship.
I have never had a problem with a partner being more "successfull" in their chosen career, and earning more money etc
One of the most complete relationships I had was with a woman who was a lawyer - she worked for a human rights group called Human Rights Watch, and
she earned more than me, did more good than me and was an all round fantastic human being. We split up amicably because of the amount of time we spent
apart - at the time, we both had to travel a lot and that left little time for us to be together, but we are still good friends and keep in touch.
I see the male role changing more as time goes on - BUT there are very many people who are still caught in a "macho" culture or are threatened by
the success of women, so it will take more decades of positive intervention before the roles and sexes become truly equal.